Is my boyfriend manipulating me? (relationship, toxic)

[Aunnie]

One day my boyfriend told me I could hang out with a dude one day, and I did it. After I was done he said I shouldnt of did it. He made me constantly text him every 5mins and if texted 6mins later he wouldn't believe we were just friends. He criticized what i wore( which was a long crop top and shorts, what I would wear anyday), and how close I was to him( we were sitting on the couch not even touching). Why not just tell me i can't go hang out with him? I feel like he just wanted to use it against me.

[Bitey]

If the relationship is worth the head games and the constant checking-in by text, stay in it. If it's not, get out of it.

[MPowering1]

You went and hung out with him and your boyfriend came along?

Why is he telling you that you can go hang out with another guy? You're allowed to hang out with anyone you want - you don't need his permission.

He's immature and insecure. How old are each of you?

[Aunnie]

No my boyfriend didn't come along, I was even asking him if he was sure he wouldn't feel weird about it or use it against me. I'm 18 and he's 25.

[MPowering1]

Originally Posted by Aunnie

No my boyfriend didn't come along, I was even asking him if he was sure he wouldn't feel weird about it or use it against me. I'm 18 and he's 25.

How did your bf see how closely you two were sitting on the couch?

He's an immature 25. And he's controlling. Does he pout or skulk when he doesn't like something? Does he have a temper and do things beyond that?

[Aunnie]

Originally Posted by MPowering1

How did your bf see how closely you two were sitting on the couch?

He's an immature 25. And he's controlling. Does he pout or skulk when he doesn't like something? Does he have a temper and do things beyond that?

He was asking for pictures and stuff. If he doesnt like something he just gets angry and doesn't try to fix it. Like I'll get upset because he did soemthing stupid and then yell at me for getting upset for something he did. His temper is bad.

[MPowering1]

You're young and he's immature and a controlling hot-head. This is the kind of man who ends up hitting a woman.

This isn't a healthy relationship and he's toxic. Please get out of this mess. It's not a loving relationship.

[Bamaman1]

Relationships have no room if one is sucking the wind out of the other.

And all this cellphone crap is excessively controlling.

Either both of you are in the relationship or there's really no relationship.

Put the ole boy packing. Go find someone that's got some maturity about him--and I'm not talking about old.

[Aunnie]

Originally Posted by MPowering1

You're young and he's immature and a controlling hot-head. This is the kind of man who ends up hitting a woman.

This isn't a healthy relationship and he's toxic. Please get out of this mess. It's not a loving relationship.

I just feel stuck because I love him. It feels so hard to leave.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by Aunnie

He was asking for pictures and stuff. If he doesnt like something he just gets angry and doesn't try to fix it. Like I'll get upset because he did soemthing stupid and then yell at me for getting upset for something he did. His temper is bad.

You should have just put your phone away, and turned off the ringer. Honestly, I can't believe you actually complied with all his demands. Next time, have some dignity and self-respect, and just ignore him & put the phone away. If he pitches a fit, break up with him . Good grief!

So, could you explain to us why you're with this chump? Why do you put up with this? You don't have to, you know. You can walk away anytime. There's no time like the present.