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I also find that dads policing their daughter's sexuality to be a tad creepy.
And a bit frightening-- I've heard of a few men who say they know what men are like and that's why they don't want their daughters dating. What does this imply, that they don't want a woman they love experiencing it??
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And it isn't even just a "misogyny" thing, when it becomes something that such an individual then reverses into serious distrust of other men. How many times have I heard men talk about women as being naive and too trusting, saying, "It's not that I don't trust her, I don't trust guys..." As though the notion that a man actually respecting or caring about a woman is beyond unlikely, especially if he is attracted to her?
Not to mention, gee thanks if you think it's unlikely someone could genuinely care about her, FFS. Or that she's too dumb to know if she's being mistreated. Heaven help me if my dad ever thought or does think either of those things about me...
Are you a daughter or a son yourself? A sister or a brother?
I'm a son, but I don't any sisters. I have had many girlfriends before, but I have never actually dealt with an overprotective father nor brother before.
I'm a son, but I don't any sisters. I have had many girlfriends before, but I have never actually dealt with an overprotective father nor brother before.
In light of your experience with having had girlfriends who didn't have overly protective male relatives, why does what you see portrayed in fictional media trump that which you've experienced in your own dating life?
Art often only imitates life to the barest minimum in order to make it relatable to the masses.
I'm a son, but I don't any sisters. I have had many girlfriends before, but I have never actually dealt with an overprotective father nor brother before.
Then why did you start this thread? Why do you seem to believe the fictional situations in the media?
This makes no sense.What's the purpose of your thread? In view of your most recent statement, this requires clarification.
Then why did you start this thread? Why do you seem to believe the fictional situations in the media?
This makes no sense.What's the purpose of your thread? In view of your most recent statement, this requires clarification.
I have however had many female friends that told me that their fathers/brothers were extremely overprotective, and they hated it whenever they dated someone.
And I have heard many similar stories on the internet too. A lot of fictional situations are based on real stuff. The purpose of this thread is to figure out what fathers/brothers actually think of the idea of their daughters/sisters finding love.
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OP, I completely agree with you. And I'll go one step further on a lot of fathers . . . they're not being "overprotective". They don't want their daughters ever to have sex, deep in the recesses of their minds. They make jokes about it, haha, you can google "So you want to date my daughter" and come up with endless "funny" memes from men who are trying to scare all young men away.
These men don't seem worried their daughters would be victims of violence or hurt - that's just being a parent.
Funny, I don't see dads ever getting wrapped up in drama with mean girls. Don't care. Mean girls hurt their daughters to the very core, uh huh, I don't need that drama, says Dad.
Coincidentally, I just listened to a bit by Bill Engval earlier today, who I think is one of the funniest men on the planet. But his bit about boys who come around to date his daughter is just creepy as hell. Be back by 8:30, and boy, if you touch her, well, I don't mind going back to prison. And the audience erupts in laughter.
You're not crazy for seeing it. And anything that has wended its way into our music, fiction, comedy, and t-shirts is a thing. It's a thing. Many men don't want other men coming around their daughters. And although these men have never behaved inappropriately with their daughters, and never would, they also want to keep them chaste.
I haven't seen this with brothers, though. I've seen brothers fly off into a rage when some peer shames their sister or violates her against her will. Which is understandable.
So, what's your real question? Why are you here? Did you have something you need advice on?
Troll is my guess.
I never had any issues with my sisters dating, except for one prick of a boyfriend one of my sisters had long ago who got her into drugs. He committed suicide when he was 35. No loss to anybody but his mother by then.
I never had any issues with my daughter dating. She was smart enough to make good choices and my son-in-law is aces.
OP, I completely agree with you. And I'll go one step further on a lot of fathers . . . they're not being "overprotective". They don't want their daughters ever to have sex, deep in the recesses of their minds. They make jokes about it, haha, you can google "So you want to date my daughter" and come up with endless "funny" memes from men who are trying to scare all young men away.
These men don't seem worried their daughters would be victims of violence or hurt - that's just being a parent. Funny, I don't see dads ever getting wrapped up in drama with mean girls. Don't care. Mean girls hurt their daughters to the very core, uh huh, I don't need that drama, says Dad.
Coincidentally, I just listened to a bit by Bill Engval earlier today, who I think is one of the funniest men on the planet. But his bit about boys who come around to date his daughter is just creepy as hell. Be back by 8:30, and boy, if you touch her, well, I don't mind going back to prison. And the audience erupts in laughter.
You're not crazy for seeing it. And anything that has wended its way into our music, fiction, comedy, and t-shirts is a thing. It's a thing. Many men don't want other men coming around their daughters. And although these men have never behaved inappropriately with their daughters, and never would, they also want to keep them chaste.
I haven't seen this with brothers, though. I've seen brothers fly off into a rage when some peer shames their sister or violates her against her will. Which is understandable.
t.i. last year tweeted out that he takes his 18-year old daughter to the ob-gyn every year to make sure her hyman is still in place eventhough he knows his 14-year old son is sexually active. i'm not saying that hollywood is real but it is a hyperbole of reality.
I never had any issues with my sisters dating, except for one prick of a boyfriend one of my sisters had long ago who got her into drugs. He committed suicide when he was 35. No loss to anybody but his mother by then.
I never had any issues with my daughter dating. She was smart enough to make good choices and my son-in-law is aces.
I'm not trolling. I'm being serious.
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