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I'm actually a guy who doesn't have any sisters, and I never had to deal with any overprotective fathers or brothers whenever I had a girlfriend.
But I had many female friends who had overprotective fathers/brothers who hated it whenever they dated.
And also, the whole overprotective father/brother thing happens a lot in fiction.
And also, there are shirts made for daughters that say "I'M NOT ALLOWED TO EVER DATE" and shirts made for fathers that say "DADS AGAINST DAUGHTERS DATING".
So I was just curious to know if most fathers/brothers actually hate the idea of their daughters/sisters dating and getting married someday.
I agree with this. But the sentiment behind it...they're not comfortable with their daughter's sexuality and they know guys are horny as hell, because they remember that THEY were horny as hell.
Lol err no , that is not de facto. It’s not the sexuality thing, it’s that we were not looking forward to dealing with some of the boyfriends our daughter brought home and the emotional roller coaster. Also having to hear how gorgeous and amazing the current one was every five seconds drove us bonkers.
My dad always wanted me to find someone. He’s got dementia now, and it really preoccupies him that I’m single. I just tell him I’m the queen of my own little empire and I don’t wanna screw up my happy existence.
I have never encountered a father who genuinely wished his daughter would remain single.
Me neither. We were so happy ours found love and a sweet dear husband, however if she had wanted to remain single and it made her happy that would make us happy too. . We just wanted our daughter to be happy.
Me neither. We were so happy ours found love and a sweet dear husband, however if she had wanted to remain single and it made her happy that would make us happy too. . We just wanted our daughter to be happy.
That is a very sweet post. My folks were terrified when they left us at the airport as children. But we came back as adults two years later.
No matter what, most fathers seem to hate it whenever their daughters dates someone. There are even shirts made for daughters that say "I'M NOT ALLOWED TO EVER DATE" and shirts made for fathers that say "DADS AGAINST DAUGHTERS DATING".
I have also heard many fathers on the internet say that they hate the idea of their daughter dating someone someday, and are completely against it. So it seems to me that most fathers don't ever want their daughters to date and be in a romantic relationship with someone.
The same thing can be same about brothers and sisters too. No matter what, most brothers seem to hate it whenever their sisters dates someone.
And I have also too have heard many brothers on the internet say that they hate the idea of their sister dating someone someday, and are completely against it. And so it seems to me that most brothers (like fathers) don't ever want their sisters to date and be in a romantic relationship with someone.
Well that hasn't been my experience. It all depended on if they liked the guy or not. Both my father and brother liked my former fiance with whom I was in a long-term relationship (about 10 years; was sad when it ended and would have preferred for him to stay in the family in a relationship with me) but they couldn't stand my husband and did not want me to marry him. My family is socially liberal though, not sure if that has anything to do with it.
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
Yes, but who does that in 2020? Isn't that gag an anachronism at this point? Maybe in hyper-conservative areas, the Bible Belt, and the like, it's still relevant, but not for most of America.
Yeah, that's along the lines of what I was thinking. Like my husband was sort of like that; like when we got married he always said if we had a daughter he would have to load up on shotguns and require one of the boy's kidneys as collateral before he'd let our daughter go out on a date. I think it's that old-fashioned, conservative way of thinking.
I think good parents don't want their daughters or sons getting seriously involved with someone until they are mentally mature enough to make good decisions, and preferably are self sufficient.
I don't think it's always that. Does anyone else remember the thread here started by a woman who was upset that her young son learned an offensive term at school? She was more upset at the loss of innocence than anything else, wanting to protect him and keep him from outside (corrupting) influences for as long as possible. I think to some extent this is similar, sexuality plays into it, but it's not so much about being overly concerned with the specifics of the daughters sexual life as it is about the loss of innocence, wanting to keep her his 'little girl' for as long as possible. And I realize there is some overlap, but I hope I'm making sense of what I'm trying to get across, that it's not 'just' about sexuality.
Well that hasn't been my experience. It all depended on if they liked the guy or not. Both my father and brother liked my former fiance with whom I was in a long-term relationship (about 10 years; was sad when it ended and would have preferred for him to stay in the family in a relationship with me) but they couldn't stand my husband and did not want me to marry him. My family is socially liberal though, not sure if that has anything to do with it.
Yeah, that's along the lines of what I was thinking. Like my husband was sort of like that; like when we got married he always said if we had a daughter he would have to load up on shotguns and require one of the boy's kidneys as collateral before he'd let our daughter go out on a date. I think it's that old-fashioned, conservative way of thinking.
So does that mean your husband would never want your daughter to find love someday if you and him had a daughter?
Well this is my real question. I'm wondering what goes through most fathers' and brothers' heads when their daughter or sister dates someone.
Ingrained cultural sexism. Women (including daughters) are the "property" of the family's men and as such they "own" the daughter's body against "sexual defilement."
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and the emotional roller coaster. Also having to hear how gorgeous and amazing the current one was every five seconds drove us bonkers.
It does
