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Group -- Let's get Italian. Wanna come ?
I don't want Italian.
Group. —ok that’s too bad cause that’s where we’re going. See ya.
All this. stuff you listed giving choices....it’s trying to appease a whiner. Stop trying to appease such person. I guarantee you they will come eat Italian. And if they don’t.......you just got rid of 100-240 pounds of whine
Group -- How about Chinese?
I don't want Chinese?
Group (getting frustrated) -- Hamburger? Deli down the street? What?
None of those.
Group (really frustrated) -- fine, we'll just order pizza. What do you want on it?
I don't know.
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This is no different than a little kid whining about what we’re eating for dinner. I learned fast. Hey you’re eating what’s there don’t want it...you aren’t eating. You learn fast that you’re eating what everyone eats. This idiocy of trying to appease people....if 7 of us want Italian and you want chinese...or don’t know go get chinese or sit there alone while you figure it out.
This applies to people who are late. Hey we’re leaving a 7. Then you leave at 7. The fashionably late or excessively late types....that just shows total disregard for other people.
I have never encountered such issue with anyone and I would not deal with it. My friends are all grownups and act grownup so stuff like that is not happening.
If someone says "I dont know" and then doesn't like my choice he either needs to suggest something or stay home. Period. End of discussion.
Do you think that some people are better at envisioning the food they want? While others don't know what they want until they actually see the food.
Well that would make eating out a bit of a chore wouldn't it? "Excuse me miss, could you please bring out everything on the menu so I can look at the food before I order?"
I have 2 friends who both do this annoying thing...
Me: "Where do you want to go for dinner?"
Friend: "Oh, I don't care whatever you want"
Me: "Okay, let's do pizza"
Friend: "No I had pizza yesterday"
Me: "How about the deli?"
Friend: "Sandwiches? Think of something else"
Me: "Tacos?"
Friend: "Nooo..."
Me: "Well you pick then!"
Friend: "I don't care let's go wherever you want."
Me: "Well I "wanted" 3 things and you said no to all of them"
Friend: "Well, whatever you want"
Me: "Okay, we're going to the fish place"
Friend: "eeeeewwww! Fish?"
At this point, I usually pull out a gun and shoot myself in the head.
I usually suggest the person that initiated the lunch date, pick the time and place. Then the next time I will suggest a place and add, unless you had something else in mind. For the most part it works really well. My husband hates making decisions on what and where to eat. It used to bother me, I felt guilty for always making the choice. I finally got over it and decided at least one of us should be happy, so I pick, unless he wants to, then I let him.
Well that would make eating out a bit of a chore wouldn't it? "Excuse me miss, could you please bring out everything on the menu so I can look at the food before I order?"
I have 2 friends who both do this annoying thing...
Me: "Where do you want to go for dinner?"
Friend: "Oh, I don't care whatever you want"
Me: "Okay, let's do pizza"
Friend: "No I had pizza yesterday"
Me: "How about the deli?"
Friend: "Sandwiches? Think of something else"
Me: "Tacos?"
Friend: "Nooo..."
Me: "Well you pick then!"
Friend: "I don't care let's go wherever you want."
Me: "Well I "wanted" 3 things and you said no to all of them"
Friend: "Well, whatever you want"
Me: "Okay, we're going to the fish place"
Friend: "eeeeewwww! Fish?"
At this point, I usually pull out a gun and shoot myself in the head.
it takes two to tango - why do you play that game over and over?
What is it with people who won't answer a simple question? Another thread got me thinking on this. We're not talking about deep, earth shattering things, but simple things like routine work questions or even things like "what do you want for lunch?"
Most of use have experienced it. Something as simple as a group lunch becomes a chore because one or more people refuse to say what they want, but then complain about whatever the rest of the group picks. The conversation goes something like this:
What do you want to eat?
I don't know.
Group -- Let's get Italian.
I don't want Italian.
Group -- How about Chinese?
I don't want Chinese?
Group (getting frustrated) -- Hamburger? Deli down the street? What?
None of those.
Group (really frustrated) -- fine, we'll just order pizza. What do you want on it?
I don't know.
I thought majority of married men had to go thorough this
My experience has been more like, someone asks me to pick a place, and I do, and they shoot the idea down. WHY ask my choice, and then deny my choice? If someone were to say "You pick. Anything but Chinese" I could do that easily...but say that up front, instead of asking me, and then denying me. That annoys me quite a bit. LOL
After reading all this I guess the answer to the OP is:
The question WASN'T "simple", was it? Also agree its not the question, its the decision.
I didn't always get sucked into the "what's for lunch game", but I finally realized part of the problem was me...I couldn't answer the question either! I was the one being indecisive and hoping someone else would take over that little task for me. The fix for that was to decide what I wanted and invite the other person to join me if they wish. Worked like a charm.
As for not answering a question in an email or conversation, it could simply be that the other person got preoccupied/focused on another topic. It seemed to be more important at the time.
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