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View Poll Results: Do You Think You're A "Good" or "Bad" Person and Why?
I think I'm mostly a "good" person 55 72.37%
I think I'm mostly a "bad" person 4 5.26%
Other: Please describe in comments 17 22.37%
Voters: 76. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 02-12-2021, 12:24 PM
 
Location: Seattle
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I think life is 100% yin yang. There equal forces of good and evil and that's by design. I'm not overly religious but I do believe in god and the devil and they exist in equal measures.


Goodness is everywhere as it should be. However, evil tends to be very cloaked and hidden. Without going into too much detail, I think evil is making a grand appearance and it manifests itself thru politics and corporate greed. What appears to be evil, may actually be good and visa versa.


To counter this, I go out of my way to be extra good
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Old 02-12-2021, 04:45 PM
 
Location: Southern MN
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I voted "Other" as nobody is all good or bad. In fact I don't care to use those words at all. Rather I would use "strengths" and "weaknesses." We are complex beings not either heroes or villains.

If we have normal brains we have the potential to be either. Everyone has a shadow self. As long as we maintain good mental health we will feel gratified to act out of the positive side of our nature. If we allow hatred, resentment, jealousy, actually any of the "Seven Deadly Sins," to dominate our thoughts we run the risk of acting out of our shadow self.

I don't think of that as "bad." To me that is a damaged or unhealthy human being.
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Old 02-12-2021, 07:35 PM
 
Location: West Seattle
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I guess "other".

I think I'm not as strongly protective and loving of my friends, romantic partners, and family as most people are. Like, I don't want bad things to happen to them, but I don't tend to spend a lot of time worrying about them unless I may have caused or exacerbated their issues. I don't feel defensive when someone criticizes them (although I may try to keep them apart, so it doesn't get ugly). I feel like a person who happens to have relationships, not someone defined by their relationships.

But I'm definitely above-average in empathy toward strangers and people who are outcasts, unpopular, or widely disliked. When the group gangs up on someone without a good reason --- or even with a good reason, but the person doesn't have the social awareness to understand it --- it makes me dislike the group, not the person, and I tend to become closer to the person as a result.
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Old 02-12-2021, 08:49 PM
 
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Thinking about this a lot due to quarantine - feeling caged is bringing up all kinds of issues in current time and making me question past behaviors. I'm old, so reviewing life - I find that I have been severely lacking by my own standards.

There are tests online you can take to see if you have "dark traits." Luckily, I don't seem to be a psychopath!

Do you think you're a "good" or "bad" person, and if you can categorize yourself in either of those ways, how do you substantiate your analysis?
I think im mostly a good person because i do my best to follow my moral values.

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Old 02-13-2021, 08:10 AM
 
Location: Chicago area
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I consider myself a good person with a strong moral compass and a strong sense of right and wrong. I'm also very kind and generous, especially when it comes to animals. I would rescue a drowning rat if I saw one trying to get out. Heck I was 3 weeks post op running down the street after a tiny duck chick frantically peeping and running to find its flock. It broke my heart. I caught it and was up and down all night checking on it and keeping it warm. It was a sweet little thing and I wanted to raise it, but I had to take it to a wildlife rescue. I worried about it for days.

If my friends are in trouble, I always help them. One needed $500 to pay her vet bill, so I gave it too her. Her husband has Leukemia and she has other problems as well. That $500 dollars was nothing to us and everything to them.

We gave our Hindu friends our stimulus checks. Again, they are nothing to us and everything to them. We are going to match them dollar for dollar and buy a place for them to live, which we will co-own. They don't qualify for a mortgage because they don't have green cards. They're drowning under that rent in their apartment. They will be much better off living some where for just the HOA, taxes, and insurance. It will just about cut their expenses in half. Heck we can write a check for what they need. That money is just sitting there doing nothing, why not lend it to them for a couple of years.

I've said it before here. I can be your best friend or your worst enemy. You choose. Just because I prefer to be kind and generous doesn't mean that I can't be tough and hard. I can be a nightmare too. We all those sides. It just depends on which you choose to feed.
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Old 02-13-2021, 10:53 AM
 
Location: planet earth
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I consider myself a good person with a strong moral compass and a strong sense of right and wrong. I'm also very kind and generous, especially when it comes to animals. I would rescue a drowning rat if I saw one trying to get out. Heck I was 3 weeks post op running down the street after a tiny duck chick frantically peeping and running to find its flock. It broke my heart. I caught it and was up and down all night checking on it and keeping it warm. It was a sweet little thing and I wanted to raise it, but I had to take it to a wildlife rescue. I worried about it for days.

If my friends are in trouble, I always help them. One needed $500 to pay her vet bill, so I gave it too her. Her husband has Leukemia and she has other problems as well. That $500 dollars was nothing to us and everything to them.

We gave our Hindu friends our stimulus checks. Again, they are nothing to us and everything to them. We are going to match them dollar for dollar and buy a place for them to live, which we will co-own. They don't qualify for a mortgage because they don't have green cards. They're drowning under that rent in their apartment. They will be much better off living some where for just the HOA, taxes, and insurance. It will just about cut their expenses in half. Heck we can write a check for what they need. That money is just sitting there doing nothing, why not lend it to them for a couple of years.

I've said it before here. I can be your best friend or your worst enemy. You choose. Just because I prefer to be kind and generous doesn't mean that I can't be tough and hard. I can be a nightmare too. We all those sides. It just depends on which you choose to feed.
You are very generous. I admire that. I try to help out when I can - I value generosity. My dad was a very generous man. It's a beautiful trait.
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Old 02-13-2021, 11:46 AM
 
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What a surprise, no one has voted they are a bad person, LOL


I voted "other." Like just about everyone, I've done some things in my life I'm not proud of, but nothing that would make me an overall bad person. We give something to charity every year, and I've volunteered for various causes over the years, but not enough for that aspect to define me.


But, much of my life has been fairly easy in the grand scheme of things. Had a safe home growing up, went to college, got a good paying job, never went hungry. But people who endure hardships are forced to make "bad" decisions sometimes depending on their circumstances in life, and I'm of the view that if my life wasn't so much easier in comparison, I could conceivably have made those same bad decisions too.

You are right, no one has come out as being a bad person. My next-door neighbors might not see me as a good person even though I have no idea why they would consider me a neighbor from hell. If we don't see ourselves as bad, how can we know whether or not we are bad? I have never understood why my wonderful country, the champion of human rights and freedom throughout the world, is called the Great Satan.

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Old 02-13-2021, 12:24 PM
 
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I am me. Some love me. Some loathe me.
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Old 02-13-2021, 12:30 PM
 
Location: Philadelphia, PA
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Some like me, some hate me, some tolerate me, some love me, some are jealous of me. I like me, that's all that matters. lol
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Old 02-13-2021, 12:45 PM
 
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I guess "other".

But I'm definitely above-average in empathy toward strangers and people who are outcasts, unpopular, or widely disliked. When the group gangs up on someone without a good reason --- or even with a good reason, but the person doesn't have the social awareness to understand it --- it makes me dislike the group, not the person, and I tend to become closer to the person as a result.
That's me too. I'll come to the defense of the underdog. I hate bullies.
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