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We are all given free will and self control and it's how and whether you choose to exercise these options that separates the good from the bad. We all fail to some extent as younger people, but learn as we go and even to learn to identify the difference between selfishness and selflessness is a choice we make.
You bring up a very important distinction between selfishness and selflessness.
A good or bad person is defined by his actions.
If those actions are selfish, then the person is bad even if the whole world including that person views them as good.
If those actions are selfless, then the person is good even if the whole world including that person does not view that person as such.
I would say I’m leaning towards bad but reside in the middle.
- Being considered a good person is not important to me. I consider it more important to be a consistent person and to live by the letter of my truth, even if it ain’t the friendliest.
- I don’t believe in forgiveness and I tend to be vindictive. If you do me wrong, I’m finished with you and if an easy opportunity exists for revenge without much cost to me, I will take it.
- People consider me an honest person who can be tactful. I won’t blow smoke up your backside to protect your feelings but I’ll give you my two cents blunt but not insultingly.
- I’m a very protective person of myself and friends.
- Standing up for myself means more to me than getting along.
So, do you forgive yourself when you don’t meet you own standards?
How I view myself? I guess I think of myself as neither inherently good or bad. I recognize that I am flawed. I also know that I do not purposely hurt others. I am working now on being kind; I recognize that many times in the past, I have been carelessly unkind.
I have both good and bad attributes. I have been undeservedly lucky in my life.
Following the golden rule insulates you from allegations of hypocrisy but it isn't bulletproof.
Some people don't want to be treated the way you would treat yourself.
That's where the Platinum Rule comes in: Treat others the way they want to be treated. But I follow the Silver Rule instead: Treat others the way they treated me. The Golden Rule may have been fine in the world Jesus lived in, but it's a fast track to getting screwed over in our rotten, corrupt world today.
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Originally Posted by silibran
So, do you forgive yourself when you don’t meet you own standards?
Do you want forgiveness when YOU mess up?
Forgive myself? Usually yes. Wanting forgiveness? Of course I'd want people to forgive me when I mess up. But I don't feel entitled to their forgiveness, and would understand if they wanted nothing to do with me afterwards. (Although I'd go to the police if they retaliated physically.) After all, I'm not a forgiving person myself, and it'd be hypocritical of me to expect it from others.
Spent my day today, helping out a widow with her husbands belongings. Unfortunately, she's been given 3 to 6 months by her doctor, so it's very sad. I did some things for her today, that very few would do, here. (Get your mind out of the gutter.)
I'd planned on riding my Husky 701, out in the desert today. It was 72F, supposedly. Those plans got changed in a hurry.
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