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At 27 years old, i am closed home with my family unable to go out because i have no money, i am not from a poor family but my parents don't trust me, so my mother is able to give me money so i give this money to someone else who is homeless when me myself i have nothing.
I have studied psychology, but have stopped because of a professor who did not like my intervention, i don't live in US but in african country where professors do not talk english or french, so if you do research with a foreign language he will not like this, even if in our native language we have not much ressources ,
This problem led me to stop the university, and i am completely lost, trying to write letters to authorities so i can go back th the university, but the problem is that i don't want to follow the same path, all students on my country, and all african countries are so limited, that means that a phd here equals a first year student in the united states, or less, professors don't give a new thing to students i need to go much faster, because i have no problem on working with foreign researchers
So the fact is that i am completely destroyed after many failings, and bad thinking of my family and friends about me, wich is making it worst, and i dont know how to comback to life and not to think about suicide
You are still very young. Do not get discouraged on your educational path and the many questions you have. It is a step by step process and normal to adjust your course. Try not to put excessive pressure on yourself. Is there anyone you can talk to- school counselor, friends you trust, clergy. Please do not hurt yourself. You need more support. Please seek out others, and post here too.
Many of us go through a crisis around your age looking for direction. I sure did. The fact you don't have the opportunities where you live means you should look at attending a university in another country. Probably easier than ever before to apply to a university in the U.S., which would really change your life. Or you could try to go to a European country. I've been removed from that world for so long, I wouldn't know where to start, but I'm sure there's plenty of online resources to get you started. Don't give up yet. At least wait until you're in your 50's if life hasn't worked out. But 27 is too young to give up.
At 27 years old, i am closed home with my family unable to go out because i have no money, i am not from a poor family but my parents don't trust me, so my mother is able to give me money so i give this money to someone else who is homeless when me myself i have nothing.
I have studied psychology, but have stopped because of a professor who did not like my intervention, i don't live in US but in african country where professors do not talk english or french, so if you do research with a foreign language he will not like this, even if in our native language we have not much ressources ,
This problem led me to stop the university, and i am completely lost, trying to write letters to authorities so i can go back th the university, but the problem is that i don't want to follow the same path, all students on my country, and all african countries are so limited, that means that a phd here equals a first year student in the united states, or less, professors don't give a new thing to students i need to go much faster, because i have no problem on working with foreign researchers
So the fact is that i am completely destroyed after many failings, and bad thinking of my family and friends about me, wich is making it worst, and i dont know how to comback to life and not to think about suicide
any adivce will be welcomed
The truth is that you're gonna think about suicide for some time, but what you can do is change the way you think about it. As you say you are currently lost, not really knowing what to do. This is a difficult situation to be in - I feel for you - but it is not the end of the world. Remember that there have been good times in your life, and you can slowly start building towards a goal that will make you happy. Maybe you can slowly start looking at options outside of your country. I would recommend Europe, since I come from Greece and am currently living in Germany. It will be hard at first, but having a goal can be great motivation and you can start having positive thoughts about the future.
If you think about suicide too much, remember that you can always get help from a psychologist or from suicide hotlines. It's not something to be embarassed about. Depression is a real thing. It can make you unable to think rationally, some days even rob you of your energy to get out of the bed.
Accept your current emotional situation, but don't give up on yourself. If someone else came to you and told you the same things that you wrote us, what would you tell them? I'm pretty sure you'd sympathize and encourage them to focus on getting better. So do yourself a favor and treat yourself how you like to treat others. Kindly.
Hope is a powerful thing, and I can tell you from personal experience that it is possible to get back on track. Don't rush it. Don't criticize yourself and don't let criticism bring you down.
But also try to do the things that you want. I'm sure you want to be healthy, so take care of yourself.
Live life how you want it. Good luck, have patience and i wish you happiness my friend - you can do it.
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