Is she mentally healthy at all? (boyfriend, aunt, people, everything)
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I was seeing a girl for a while, she seemed good to me at first, but I found out about some weird things she was doing. When she was 15 years old, she had company among them and her boyfriend, they listened to heavy metal music, they love tattoos and piercings, they always wore black clothes, and now the most bizarre thing ... in the evening they went to eat burgers and pizza to the cemetery. I have heard and seen all kinds of madness and disease in my life, but never something like that. What do you people think? Do you know of similar cases? Can a mentally stable person do something like that ?
I don't know about OP's age of background, but teenagers hang out in cemeteries quite often. It feels subversive to them, it doesn't cost any money, they're not disturbing the residents, and as long as they're not doing damage and cleaning up after themselves, so what? Many cemeteries were actually designed to be like public parks.
Last edited by fleetiebelle; 10-08-2021 at 08:54 AM..
Sounds like teen stuff and normal. Has nothing to do with being mentally unstable and everything to do with some teens needing to be part of a group that rebels and trying to establish their own identity away from the constricts of what they are expected to be.
Where I grew up cemeteries were places people walked, sat, couples met, had lunch breaks.
I was seeing a girl for a while, she seemed good to me at first, but I found out about some weird things she was doing. When she was 15 years old, she had company among them and her boyfriend, they listened to heavy metal music, they love tattoos and piercings, they always wore black clothes, and now the most bizarre thing ... in the evening they went to eat burgers and pizza to the cemetery. I have heard and seen all kinds of madness and disease in my life, but never something like that. What do you people think? Do you know of similar cases? Can a mentally stable person do something like that ?
Why do you care? Note highlighted past tense.
A cemetery is a good place to chill. It's better than the local park with creeps walking around. The dead can't hurt you!
to the op, no I don't see anything weird about it at all.
What exactly bothers you so much? I don't get it.
cemeteries are very peaceful (and sometimes very beautiful) places.
People have different reasons for visiting them.
For teens, it could just be a way of facing the fear of death. For younger people, death is a lot more "mysterious" and unknown territory. Sometimes young people can become fascinated with things of that nature because maybe they haven't yet really experienced it (the death of someone close to them). It's more of a taboo type thing, and young people tend to gravitate towards that which is taboo. Maybe they want to be seen as goth or weird or creepy or "dark" or what have you. There are a lot of different reasons why young people would hang out in a cemetery. And a lot of those reasons are not mentally "unhealthy" at all.
FWIW, the fact that she has found and spends time with a group of friends with common interests sounds like a positive thing. If she never socialized with anyone, it would concern me more. Most of what you described (flaunting a style of dress, adornments, music choice, etc) is pretty harmless. They could choose worse things (fraud, vandalism, arson, violence) but seem satisfied with something short of crime. You just don't share the same interests so it seems strange. Now if those friends chose to eat their meals in cemeteries but didn't bring any fast food with them maybe that would be worth some attention .
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