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Have you developed any strategies for dealing with your emotions? One of the strategies I use is to think of as many possible reasons why a person might say something that triggers me and then pick the one that doesn't cast them in a bad light.
--they want to mock me
--they want to know my opinion explicitly because they share the same one. It is easier to get through a meeting when they know somebody else doesn't want to be there.
--they are just doing what was done to them and they were fine with it. It even helped them straighten out their act
--that is the best way they know how to break the ice
That's generally good advice. Some people are going to be out to jerk your chain, but for the most part, assuming good intentions on the part of others makes your life a lot easier.
That's generally good advice. Some people are going to be out to jerk your chain, but for the most part, assuming good intentions on the part of others makes your life a lot easier.
Thank you. At first, it makes a person slower to react which is what they don't want. Instead, they often want an immediate come-back. But over time and experience with others, these little sarcastic phrases don't seem so original and so won't come across as very personal.
Another strategy I use is to maintain professional and personal relationships with others. If my boss said, "XYZ", would I respond differently to a worker who said the same thing? If I do, then that is not very professional and I am taking it too personally. I also wouldn't tell my boss "Wow, you look excited to be here" so I wouldn't tell that to an employee. That is both unprofessional and impersonal. Personal relationships should be a quest to know more about a person.
I have sought out professional help . I have been in and out of therapy since age 18. Most of my therapist have been terrible.
I have tried to change being thin skinned and I haven't had any luck . You have no idea what it is like to be in my shoes and deal with the kind of abuse I have dealt with .also, I am sure there are other people on this forum with the same issues as me. No one is perfect, including you .
Of course I am not perfect, but I fight back or choose not to be offended. I am not a doormat. And I have dealt with abuse and bullying more than most people. But I am a grown up now and now I have the tools and maturity to handle it. I don't surround myself with people who aren't good for me and I would fight back if anyone walks all over me. You need to grow a backbone or change out the people you spend time with.
I hate when you don't look or sound extremely excited and someone says, " Wow you look so excited to be here" or " Don't sound so enthusiastic". How should i respond when someone says these things to me , knowing they are being sarcastic? Comments like these always bother me because I feel like i am being made fun of. I guess people don't consider that someone may be depressed or going through something. People really suck.
Some think they are being clever…and what do they hope to achieve by saying something like that? Do they say it to amuse bystanders? Sarcasm used jokingly in the right instance is one thing, but this is not an instance of such.
I hate when you don't look or sound extremely excited and someone says, " Wow you look so excited to be here" or " Don't sound so enthusiastic". How should i respond when someone says these things to me , knowing they are being sarcastic? Comments like these always bother me because I feel like i am being made fun of. I guess people don't consider that someone may be depressed or going through something. People really suck.
My reply, if any, to a rude/unkind/sarcastic remark is, "Do you feel better now?"
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