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That is a lot of weight in a very very short amount of time. I would tactfully ask the daughter what's going on. Maybe look at getting her thyroid checked.
She already admitted she'd "gone crazy with food". Although you're right; 50 lbs. is a lot, even for that. Probably the alcohol consumption added calories, as well?
She already admitted she'd "gone crazy with food". Although you're right; 50 lbs. is a lot, even for that. Probably the alcohol consumption added calories, as well?
As I said earlier (it might have gotten lost in the thread), it's entirely possible that her college doctors put her on some medication that caused this. Particularly if she sought counseling for depression or something, she may well be taking a psychotropic drug that not only causes rapid weight gain, but also increases appetite alarmingly. Otherwise, I'd think you'd really have to work at it to gain 55 pounds in that length of time.
She may or may not wish to tell her parents about this; it IS confidential.
Leave her alone, she is aware of the weight gain. Tell her you are available to talk about anything, but if you start making demands to eat only certain things, she won't be back for the next holiday either.
She pigged out with high calorie foods and alcohol. I guess I would talk with her to see if she is bothered by this, and if she isn't, I would let it go. If the daughter doesn't care what she looks like or about her health, there is nothing anyone can do about it. I suspect the mother just doesn't have the "tools" to deal with the issue with a positive spin.
Last night I was talking with a friend who has put on weight. She said when her dad saw her that he said she had gotten "fat". Well, she explained to him that the word "fat" hurt her feelings, and that she was trying to eat healthier, so maybe she told him, just mention she needs to eat healthier. She told me that she knows that her dad did not mean to hurt her feelings and was concerned about her health. A lesson to be learned from that.
The cooler head (clearly not your wife) might want to have a low key discussion with your daughter and make sure there is nothing super stressful happening to cause stress related weight gain. Freshman 15 is one thing. 50 lbs is quite another.
Just make sure she is okay, with no recriminations.
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