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Originally Posted by Layden85
At a convention. He was so normal and funny. Talked to us a lot. Hung out at the bar with us. Just sat at a table and talked to us until he had to leave. So much eye contact. So hot at 48. Said he wanted to keep in touch (it was me and 2 other fans I met online) one gave him gifts and her info and he said he would contact her and for her to contact us because he liked us and we had a good energy. Yeah he was a little drunk by then but he was just so cool. Now I can’t stop tearing up when I think about it. Maybe a mix of happiness that it happened. Sad that is over. And that I’m was just so attracted to him and will never know what it’s like. I’m married but he wouldn’t be into me or the other fans considering he dates women 20 years younger.
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First question before interventional therapy.
Lets say he was totally into a woman like you (age, figure, looks, chemistry, etc.), and you had an opportunity to have him as a lover, even just for one night.
[ I know I am playing into a "what if fantasy", but keep in mind the consequences. You lose your current marriage, the respect of your kids/friends/social network, and though he seems hot beyond imagine, the affair is not going to last ]
So that considered, would it really be worth seeing if the grass was greener on the other side?
That question takes on even more reality if you consider said "celeb" was a jerk, cruel, or XYZ that your life long mate was not.
Would it still be worth it?
Keep in mind your current husband might have gotten overweight, snores, has X amount of quirks, etc.
Don't assume just because someone is famous, they are without flaws or even things you might despise.
To give you an example of what I mean, look no further than fan based forums created by, and only frequented by older women who pine after aging R&R groups.
Take an example of older women who love the Eagles (music group from the 70's), yet find one member great, and despising anyone who has even the slightest criticism of them.
If they control the forum, you will be banned and/or have your opinion removed, if you dare say anything negative about their favorite member.
Sure the guy could be a loser in real life, but if they had a personal connection, or God forbid an actual meeting with them, they will defend them, like an only child of theirs.
I digress.
The point being that we are all human beings, and have our +'s & -'s.
Getting wrapped up in lamenting about a fantasy figure is not productive/realistic, nor something that can bring you happiness.