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Like I feel if someone is unfriendly to me it’s because they think I’m ugly. If someone is friendlier to my friend over me, they think I’m ugly. If someone tells me I’m beautiful I think they feel sorry for me. I was talking to this guy who was a friend of a friend. We had a lot of the same interests. I asked him his name and he showed me on FB seemed happy for me to send him a friends request. I’m married and it was totally innocent. Hours later I noticed he deleted my request. I feel like he must of thought I was ugly. At work this man always says high to my blonde Romanian coworker. She isn’t all that attractive but she is thin and friendly. When I would pass him in the hallway he would always look at his phone. But if I was with her he would say Hi just to her.
Last edited by PJSaturn; 03-21-2022 at 10:50 AM..
Reason: Merged 2 threads on same topic; edited thread title for clarification.
The women who get attention are married also.
It can’t be my personality if they don’t know me.
"At work this man always says high to my blonde Romanian coworker. She isn’t all that attractive but she is thin and friendly. When I would pass him in the hallway he would always look at his phone. But if I was with her he would say Hi just to her."
Yeah, it could be your personality. Read what you stated above.
The women who get attention are married also.
It can’t be my personality if they don’t know me.
Even if they don't know you, you can send signals, body language, downcast eyes, etc. Yes, you're wrong to base everything on looks. Looks are just one aspect of things.
It is true some men will only pay attention to women they find attractive or who make them feel good about themselves. Even to say hi or something simple. Doesn't mean the others are ugly but some people are really shallow and self absorbed they cannot see beyond surface things.
No way to know if this is the case for you or not, I've had people who just didn't seem to like me for whatever reason at all different points of life and I don't think I was ugly. There are so many reasons people do what they do and they don't always seem to make sense.
It is true some men will only pay attention to women they find attractive or who make them feel good about themselves. Even to say hi or something simple. Doesn't mean the others are ugly but some people are really shallow and self absorbed they cannot see beyond surface things.
No way to know if this is the case for you or not, I've had people who just didn't seem to like me for whatever reason at all different points of life and I don't think I was ugly. There are so many reasons people do what they do and they don't always seem to make sense.
Indeed, sometimes people will not like an individual because they're pretty, and they'll jump to the conclusion that the pretty person is stuck up, or mean, or some such.
Way back in the day, where I used to work, we got a new girl, and there she was, looking all cute with her curly blond hair, and her cute little skirt, and her mile long crossed legs, and I IMMEDIATELY judged her as a stuck up brat.
That was nearly 30 years ago, and we're best friends, and she was my matron of honor in my wedding. LOL
Indeed, sometimes people will not like an individual because they're pretty, and they'll jump to the conclusion that the pretty person is stuck up, or mean, or some such.
But at the same time, I think very few people make decisions about how to interact with others for regular reasons on a daily basis because they think those people are ugly. That says a lot more about the OP's self-esteem than it does about human interaction.
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