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Where did anyone say the OP was "less-than"? According to what little the OP wrote, some unknown person about which we know absolutely nothing specific, thought the OP's lifestyle was "wrong". We know nothing about why or how the OP even became aware of this view. It is possible to disagree with someone else without belittling them, insulting them, or persecuting them. I guess it bears repeating again...people are multifaceted. It is possible to acknowledge and benignly accept someone who doesn't happen to be a mirror image of yourself. Discerning, tolerant, and civilized people do it all the time. Speaking of assumptions, I'd suggest you are just as guilty of making them as the OP.
That's what I got from the OP saying people who see LGBTQ as wrong. He'll have to clear up how he sees the situation to know.
I just reread the OP's post and noticed that this "homophobe" (I guess that's anyone who isn't in full support of the lifestyle) is "in the family." Like maybe a grandparent? Yeah, no; I don't think it'd be very nice to "cut off contact" with gramps. People aren't "attacking" or "bullying" you simply by holding a different view; the sooner you realize that, the easier life will be for you and for others.
My political and religious beliefs differ substantially from my son's political and religious beliefs. We just don't talk about politics or religion and I absolutely ADORE him and love spending time with him! Maybe he feels the same about me - he seems to.
I just reread the OP's post and noticed that this "homophobe" (I guess that's anyone who isn't in full support of the lifestyle) is "in the family." Like maybe a grandparent? Yeah, no; I don't think it'd be very nice to "cut off contact" with gramps. People aren't "attacking" or "bullying" you simply by holding a different view; the sooner you realize that, the easier life will be for you and for others.
He wasn't talking about cutting off his mom or anyone. He simply didn't understand why his mom wouldn't cut off people who had a problem with LGBT when her son belonged to that group. It's a valid feeling.
Well it's partly because i have special needs and she is hinting having someone look after me after she is gone and the person might be anti LGBT, but i not sure who or what.
Thanks for the added detail. It's totally valid to have a discussion focused on that specific topic. You can definitely say something like, "Mom, I know you're concerned about having someone look after me if something happens to you. I want that person to be someone who can both provide that care but be accepting of me as a person." That way, you focus on your specific concern without naming a specific person at this stage. If your mom then says, "I would like it to be this person" you can then state your concern and be very direct about it. Focusing first on your special needs is important. It's your physical and emotional well-being. Then see where the conversation goes.
Because i came out as bisexual a long time ago, but for some reason my mom seems to want to associate with people who view being LGBT as wrong who are in their family, instead of simply splitting off contact with them.
You're purposely being vague on the "whos" your mother has failed to cut off. Would one of the "whos" be your grandmother or grandfather perhaps? Maybe your mom's sister or brother?
Which family members are you insisting she cancel? Please tell us, oh tolerant one. Which loved one should your mama shun in order to please you?
By the way,,,, you forget the "Q".
Or maybe you've canceled the "Q's" for some reason?
I do not understand the younger generation insisting on canceling people, just because they do not agree with them.
So let me get this straight.
Your mom has friends and family who do not approve of homos, and you think she should never speak with them again?
What about if homos will not associate with heteros.
Does that make any sense?
A slightly off topic but serious question for you since you say you are bi.
In today's nutty word, some claim there are not just two genders. However someone who is bi is directly saying they have sex with both men & women.
Ergo, can a person really identify as bi if there are more than two genders?
He wasn't talking about cutting off his mom or anyone. He simply didn't understand why his mom wouldn't cut off people who had a problem with LGBT when her son belonged to that group. It's a valid feeling.
He was asking why his mother didn't "cut off" a family member on his behalf as a political statement.
Because i came out as bisexual a long time ago, but for some reason my mom seems to want to associate with people who view being LGBT as wrong who are in their family, instead of simply splitting off contact with them.
Read it for yourself. He even says "in their (her) family" as if it's not also his family; guess he's already cut the person off!
He was asking why his mother didn't "cut off" a family member on his behalf as a political statement.
I don't see any politics in what he said.
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Where did anyone say the OP was "less-than"? According to what little the OP wrote, some unknown person about which we know absolutely nothing specific, thought the OP's lifestyle was "wrong". We know nothing about why or how the OP even became aware of this view. It is possible to disagree with someone else without belittling them, insulting them, or persecuting them. I guess it bears repeating again...people are multifaceted. It is possible to acknowledge and benignly accept someone who doesn't happen to be a mirror image of yourself. Discerning, tolerant, and civilized people do it all the time. Speaking of assumptions, I'd suggest you are just as guilty of making them as the OP.
