What would neurodivergent people be like if born neurotypical instead? What would stay the same/be different?

[vanguard103]

Originally Posted by bu2

You need to understand the concept of sunk costs. All that is water under the bridge. Stop whining and do your best with what you've got. You seem to understand your issues. Make a plan. Set time lines. Make 1, 3 and 5 year plans. Work on those things that need working on. Read books. Take courses. If you write it down, its easier to followup instead of bouncing around. If you have weak executive function skills, you need to create structure for yourself.

I am trying this, plus ADHD meds. My mom freaks out because I was prescribed Strattera, which is supposed to be one of the safer ADHD meds due to being a nonstimulant. But she is acting like it will automatically make me suicidal or a drug addict.

[vanguard103]

Originally Posted by K12144

You can wonder this, but all it's going to do is make you feel bad about yourself. Unfortunately, you can't turn back the clock and be born differently, and spending time focusing on "what could've been" is only going to make you feel even worse about what actually is. You just cope with what happens to you in life the best you can, and try not to drive yourself nuts wishing it could be different when there's nothing you can do to change it-- that way lies madness and pain.

Fair enough. As said in Frozen 2, you just got to do the next right thing. That song actually comes back to e alot...

[Gohangr]

Originally Posted by vanguard103

Everyone has struggles in life sure, but not having disorders like these while not removing struggle completely do make it easier. Just like how everyone can get sick but clearly not having cancer is a whole other thing. Or how even being able to walk/run life isn't always easy but is far better than being paralyzed/having mobility issues .

That logic is self-defeating. You can say that for everyone. But saying "hey at least l don't have X problem" doesn't magically make your life better.

When people have problems they try to overcome them. Sometimes they can't, sometimes they need time and sometimes they need to rethink their problems in order to be able to move on and enjoy their lives.

Don't add to your problems by also getting anxious and worrying about social norms. You are an individual and you have your own plans and circumstances in life. You make decisions and the consequences unravel - good or bad.

You say you would like to be normal. Well welcome to being normal normally people have problems and normally people wish they could have something better in life!
But also try not to hyperfocus on hypothetical things like the past and the future - you are who you are now, and it may be difficult and frustrating but it is also fun and interesting.