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Old 01-24-2024, 02:34 PM
 
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......especially when they see happy couples.

Is it really true 'misery loves company'?
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Old 01-24-2024, 02:51 PM
 
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Why do people feel resentful when they see others happy?
Envy? Knows something about the other person?
Is someone resenting your relationship?

I think people are happy for others, at least the ones I know!

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Old 01-24-2024, 03:19 PM
 
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I can't think of anyone I know who is resentful when they see someone who is happy. When I see happy people, it makes me smile and lifts my spirits.

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Old 01-24-2024, 03:39 PM
 
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I think people are happy for others, at least the ones I know!
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When I see happy people, it makes me smile and lifts my spirits.
That's good to hear!

However, believe it or not, there are envious people who seem unable to admire someone else's happiness.
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Old 01-24-2024, 04:59 PM
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Well, considering there's an actual word for this, schadenfreude, meaning the pleasure people take from the misfortunes of others, well, it's a thing.
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Old 01-24-2024, 05:53 PM
 
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Well, considering there's an actual word for this, schadenfreude, meaning the pleasure people take from the misfortunes of others, well, it's a thing.
I'm not familiar with the word, but I do know some envious people take joy in seeing others experience setbacks and failures (divorce, losing a job, being thrown in jail), rather than just focusing on the happiness someone else is feeling.

Being happy for someone seems difficult for envious people who sometimes may lack compassion and kindness...IMHO.
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Old 01-24-2024, 05:57 PM
 
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Not me. If I see someone happy I want to hang out with them. Maybe they know something I don't.

Either way, I wouldn't want to pass on a happy day. Life is short, make it count!!!!
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Old 01-24-2024, 06:42 PM
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I'm not familiar with the word, but I do know some envious people take joy in seeing others experience setbacks and failures (divorce, losing a job, being thrown in jail), rather than just focusing on the happiness someone else is feeling.

Being happy for someone seems difficult for envious people who sometimes may lack compassion and kindness...IMHO.
Exactly. And I agree, hanging out with happy people, or actively seeking to witness happiness while out in public is really a mood-brightener. But, it seems, not for everyone.
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Old 01-24-2024, 08:06 PM
 
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Well, considering there's an actual word for this, schadenfreude, meaning the pleasure people take from the misfortunes of others, well, it's a thing.
That is a thing, yes, but the opposite of what the OP said.
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Old 01-24-2024, 08:09 PM
 
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......especially when they see happy couples.

Is it really true 'misery loves company'?
No, it means they feel bad about something missing in their own lives that they see someone else has. It really has nothing to do with the happy people. It has to do with their own dissatisfaction.
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