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Old 06-07-2024, 06:30 PM
 
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I think this belongs to the psychology section and would like to share this. I actually find psychology interesting. It's regarding a regular client that comes to our workplace on Fridays and Saturdays. The lady is probably in her late 20's or early 30's. She has cheated on her bf of 5 years has expressed not feeling actual remorse towards it. She feels little to no guilt. However, she does loves her family and her pets, which are 2 Huskies. She said to love the guy but just doesn't feel bad for cheating.

Would cheating on a partner and experiencing no remorse afterwards be enough to consider someone a real sociopath? Or is the word sociopath overused.
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Old 06-07-2024, 08:13 PM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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Or is the word sociopath overused.
Overused and misused, along with narcissism
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Old 06-08-2024, 07:22 AM
 
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Unless she displays that attitude or trait in every relationship and with every aspect of her life then no. Sociopathy can run on a spectrum from mild transgressions to full blown but I don’t believe it can be confined to one thing like cheating.
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Old 06-08-2024, 09:16 AM
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I think this belongs to the psychology section and would like to share this. I actually find psychology interesting. It's regarding a regular client that comes to our workplace on Fridays and Saturdays. The lady is probably in her late 20's or early 30's. She has cheated on her bf of 5 years has expressed not feeling actual remorse towards it. She feels little to no guilt. However, she does loves her family and her pets, which are 2 Huskies. She said to love the guy but just doesn't feel bad for cheating.

Would cheating on a partner and experiencing no remorse afterwards be enough to consider someone a real sociopath? Or is the word sociopath overused.
Sounds like a sociopath for sharing this type of information with clients, unless you happen to be in a counseling business. In which case, you are the sociopath for sharing confidential information!
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Old 06-08-2024, 10:25 AM
 
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LOL! There is a book about "Open Marriage," different cultures have different mores that sometimes include seemingly promiscuous behavior. In some, offering the services of the wife to a guest was considered good manners. In others the social relations revolved around the community as a whole and the two sexes had roles and rules that equated to the primary relationships being between same sex members and only very loose and flexible sexual relationships between opposite sexes.

Beyond the vast cultural differences possible, the area of paraphilia makes just about every possible sexual activity a billable diagnosis.

Could the wife be a sociopath? Possibly. Could she also be a Yankees fan? Possibly. So what?

One of the core concepts in psychology is: Is the behavior harming either the individual or others? If the answer is no, or I don't know, then it is usually time to move on. If the mate has no problem with the behavior, no problem. If the mate does, then divorce proceedings may go in his favor. Any problem that exists is within the interrelationship of the couple, and NOYB.
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Old 06-08-2024, 04:36 PM
 
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Unless she displays that attitude or trait in every relationship and with every aspect of her life then no. Sociopathy can run on a spectrum from mild transgressions to full blown but I don’t believe it can be confined to one thing like cheating.
I was going to say similar. It is a spectrum. I have a SIL that checks many of the boxes but is mild overall. She smiles and acts sweet while spewing negativity. I feel like I need to bathe after spending any time around her.

Some people like in the OP can compartmentalize their lives easier than others. Many rich powerful men have side pieces but claim to love and never leave their wives.
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Old 06-08-2024, 04:49 PM
 
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Ever consider that your chatty client might be fibbing? She may be spinning yarns hoping for sympathy and attention.
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Old 06-08-2024, 04:52 PM
 
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Possibly. I would be more inclined to call them a sh!tty person.

People in relationships cheat because somehow, their needs are not being met. Did she say WHY she did it?
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Old 06-08-2024, 06:25 PM
 
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Possibly. I would be more inclined to call them a sh!tty person.

People in relationships cheat because somehow, their needs are not being met. Did she say WHY she did it?
Like LT pointed out.........too many variables.

I've got a life long friend that seeks out married women, its like a thrill for him. I have a neighbor that has had a string of relationships with married men, she ignores single guys.

Both are not my thing but the stories are crazy.
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Old 06-09-2024, 12:04 PM
 
Location: Southern MN
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Don't think in terms of diagnosis unless you are trained. Too many confounding factors.

I like the concept of a "flavor." Certain behaviors have a sociopathic flavor. Then look for repeating trends.

But, good grief, which one of us hasn't fudged on following the rules sometime in our lives?

Some of us, with all the new psychiatric info available these days see pathology everywhere. Meh, people are just flawed. Most of us like the shortcuts somewhere in our lives.

Take an honest look and check you aren't harming someone. Or like Mom used to say, "Try to be good."
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