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Old 06-09-2024, 04:00 PM
 
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I eat out daily. I feel I have a good read on people. I'd consider a rude waiter/waitress as having a bad day and wouldn't take either situation personally.
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Old 06-09-2024, 05:30 PM
 
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Depends.
What is your example of rude?

Racist?
Bad mood?
other?
I knew we would have to go here.
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Old 06-10-2024, 09:08 AM
 
Location: 'greater' Buffalo, NY
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So many people responded as if only scenario B had been mentioned.

A is way worse than B
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Old 06-10-2024, 09:14 AM
 
Location: Mayberry
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If the waiter/waitress was rude to everyone, I would talk to the manager. If it was just me, I'd wonder why? I know how I act in a restaurant, I would think they would be having a bad day and try to make them smile. I can do that! LOL
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Old 06-10-2024, 10:10 AM
 
Location: SF/Mill Valley
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(A) You are a customer in a restaurant. The waiter is rude to you, but he/she is nice to all the other customers.
(B) You are a customer in a restaurant. The waiter is rude to you, and he/she is also rude to all the other customers.
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So many people responded as if only scenario B had been mentioned.

A is way worse than B
Why would you assume (or how would you know) the waiter is being rude to you and nice to other customers? I’d assume they’re having a bad day. Either way, all you can do is remain politely pleasant, tip accordingly and enjoy your meal. What would you do differently?
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Old 06-10-2024, 10:11 AM
 
Location: 89052 & 75206
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If I even noticed that others were being treated differently than I was, I might tolerate it or simply ask the server why s/he seemed annoyed with me.
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Old 06-10-2024, 11:03 AM
 
Location: East of Seattle since 1992, 615' Elevation, Zone 8b - originally from SF Bay Area
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There is a big difference.

1) The waiter is rude to me only, so it's a personal attack against me for an unknown reason, I take it personally - no tip.

2) The waiter is either a jerk or is having a bad day, but treating everyone the same, so very small tip.
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Old 06-10-2024, 11:29 AM
 
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There is a big difference.

1) The waiter is rude to me only, so it's a personal attack against me for an unknown reason, I take it personally - no tip.

2) The waiter is either a jerk or is having a bad day, but treating everyone the same, so very small tip.
Nice. That is how I feel but I'd probably be too cowardly to do it. I think I'd leave a small tip but I'd be irritated.
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Old 06-10-2024, 09:33 PM
 
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A would make me angry and I would not enjoy my meal and I have, in one dire situation, left a penny on the table.



B would just be irksome, but not much.


As a child at an all you can eat night at Howard Johnson's, we had a very nasty waitress and my stepfather wrote on the back of the check: My tip to you is surliness does not pay. This got us all giggling and we ran for the door, and so went home in a better mood.


Degree of rudeness factors in.
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Old 06-10-2024, 09:38 PM
 
Location: Honolulu/DMV Area/NYC
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On the one hand, being rude to me will have me feel a certain way about a person and situation regardless of whether someone is also rude to others. On the other other hand, rudeness to others will only increase my level of disgust as I hate seeing others being mistreated also. Still, my reaction would likely be the same; a bad tip and no more patronizing that business.
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