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After looking it up I still don't know what is going on so don't punish people who don't know the current terminology for, and/or, what Q is!
This month's issue of National Geographic highlights this topic. They have devoted a page or two to definitions and descriptions. I was more confused after I read it. I'll just keep my mouth shut for fear of offending someone.
And as far as the censoring of words, it's an automatic thing. No person is going in and actually doing that. So, since the computers can't tell context and simply check against a database of banned words, things get caught. There are a few other random words I've run up against that I had to scratch my head over.
And I'll have to say that I'm still sit totally sure of the distinction even after looking around (and while I'm certainly not in the community, I've been to Drag shows, had gay/lesbian friends and acquaintances and am certainly tolerant) so education would probably be helpful. Or maybe if you could point out a site that says something other than what was copied earlier, which I also found and doesn't make much distinction.
This month's issue of National Geographic highlights this topic. They have devoted a page or two to definitions and descriptions. I was more confused after I read it. I'll just keep my mouth shut for fear of offending someone.
I hope the OP finds what they are looking for. This is an accommodating area.
This month's issue of National Geographic highlights this topic. They have devoted a page or two to definitions and descriptions. I was more confused after I read it. I'll just keep my mouth shut for fear of offending someone.
count me among those who didn't know q---r wasn't still some pejorative form of "homosexual".
of course, this was also only the second time I've ever seen the word heteronormative, whatever it's supposed to mean.
And I'll have to say that I'm still sit totally sure of the distinction even after looking around (and while I'm certainly not in the community, I've been to Drag shows, had gay/lesbian friends and acquaintances and am certainly tolerant) so education would probably be helpful. Or maybe if you could point out a site that says something other than what was copied earlier, which I also found and doesn't make much distinction.
In short, "Q" is less about who you have sex with and more about how you see yourself as different from the norm. That's a simple answer, and note that not everyone uses the term because the term is not reclaimed by even most people in the LGBTQ community.
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That said, we could use all the help we can get. If you decide to move here, I'd encourage you to look at Durham, Chapel Hill, or Asheville.
Durham, I think, has to be considered ground zero for the LGBTQ community in NC. For those who like mountains, Asheville is no slouch. Pittsboro and Winston-Salem are also good options, and Charlotte has a decent-sized community as well.
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of course, this was also only the second time I've ever seen the word heteronormative, whatever it's supposed to mean.
The idea of Heteronormative is when there is a belief that each person falls into one of two genders, and both of these genders have solidified roles. This is to assume that the default sexuality for each person is straight, and that everything outside of this is "alternative" or "other" or "not natural". What gender role you play entirely hinges on the reproductive organs you got via the lottery of birth.
i.e. Men go to work and enjoy sports. Women stay home to cook, clean, and take care of the kids. etc...
1. What are the odds of us having a bad encounter in public (in regards to appearance and unusual relationship)?
Highly unlikely. I had a same-sex relationship for 3 years and never had issues, even in the most rural redneck parts of the state. People are friendly, the major cities are quite socially progressive. The state level politics don't really reflect that.
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2. What is the employment like for visibly [gay] people?
A non-issue.
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3. Are there eateries for someone who is vegan/gluten free/other food related issues?
In addition to the places listed so far, I'd add Living Kitchen in Raleigh, which is a gluten free/vegan/raw restaurant that impressed me quite a bit.
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4. What parts of town would be good for living in?
Whatever you can afford.
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5. Walkability of areas?
All three downtowns are walkable, with good nightlife options. However, for living and working this region is fairly car-centric.
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6. The level of intersectional diversity / diversity of communities (not just statistics which can show a high level of diversity but don't display large areas of segregation)?
There's an unfortunate amount of racial division still. Black communities are largely clustered in central Durham and eastern Raleigh. Chapel Hill is extremely white.
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7. What does the activist scene look like?
We have the Moral Mondays movement, as well as some smaller things.
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8. What does the [gay] community look like?
Well, most of my friends are gay, and some are trans. It's a decently sized community from what I've seen, but not the most organized.
only 3 out of 100 counties and a handful of cities prohibit discrimination due to gender identity (and that's only in public employment). So, in most of NC, the vast majority of public employment and ALL of private employment has the ability to fire based on gender identity alone
In fact, since HB2 is still "active", ALL protections for L, G, B, T, or Q are void. 100 out of 100 counties. And no municipality or county is allowed to write any (there's that Republican "smaller government", dontcha know?).
But private businesses are free to allow whatever they want to do. HB 2, as bad as it is, only applies to governmental entities. I've seen a large number of restaurants actively doing the reverse by taking previously divided restrooms and making them all into gender neutral so it's had an opposite effect in some places.
My family is Q friendly, refugee friendly. We just sold our home in the state of nc and are moving to a friendly state.
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