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I recently moved to Morrisville from New Jersey where I've been living and working for many years and started my new job in one of the large IT hardware companies in RTP as an engineer. I'd say I enjoy almost everything here - my new apartment and community, the clean and quite suburban living, the weather, the new challenging and well-paid job, the supportive coworkers and boss, etc. - almost everything only except for one thing: I have no friends here. I have no one to talk to, to hang out with, to have on a trip together at weekends.
I won't say I'm an extravert or a social guy, but I did have some friends before moving here, and everyone, however introvert they are, always needs friends. I like basketball, wakeboard, wall-climbing, boating, tasting new food, trying diff restaurant, and traveling to explore new culture and landscape. I understand there might rarely be Chinese visiting this forum but I've got to reach out proactively. If you are Chinese living in the same area, please email me at xiyaocorner[at]yahoo.com. My treat to have a Starbucks!
My neighbor in a previous neighborhood used to go to a Meetup group and also something called, "Asian professionals in the Triangle" or something similar. Since it was a broad Asian group, there were Indians and many other kinds of East Asians there, but he said plenty of Chinese also in the group. Sorry, don't have a website but do a search - there's plenty of things here.
Yes, Korean, but definitely a Chinese attraction. Meet People!
Both are popular venues.
And... Welcome to CityData, where you can always find someone to hijack your posts to pick at your requests without any attempt at answering your questions!
Right ^ lol, every forum.
However, good suggestions there. Also, huge agglomeration of Chinese students and Chinese Americans in the Glenwood area. I know Chapel Hill has some venues too.
If you're on WeChat, I know there are some pretty active groups in this area. I'm not on WeChat, so I don't really know how it works, but I have some friends who are active on there.
I understand the double standard, but I am the one that would still look weird if I say, "Hey, I just moved to the Triangle and looking for some white friends to hang out with. Please PM me."
Because the majority of the country is still white. There are white people everywhere. If you need help finding white friends, then you got a problem.
I don't understand why it matters what the majority is. If you're new here, you're new here, and you want to find people similar to you.
The schools also have a problem with families wanting to go to schools with similarly-minded people. That's what they call "lack of equity".
I have no issue with people wanting to be around people that are like them. But it's not right for it to only be acceptable for some races.
I don't understand why it matters what the majority is. If you're new here, you're new here.
The schools also have a problem with families wanting to go to schools with similarly-minded people. That's what they call "lack of equity".
I have no issue with people wanting to be around people that are like them. But it's not right for it to only be acceptable for some races.
I think you're looking it at it from a perspective of someone whose family has been in the US for many years (maybe generations). If you go up to someone like you and ask what their heritage/culture is, you likely don't have a very close tie to whatever your family's origin is before arriving in the US and just identify as a "American" (even if you are Irish or German or African heritage etc....).
If you are a first or second generation immigrant, you identify with the culture/country that you or your parents have left behind because that's what you're likely have been used to or exposed to for the majority of your life. I know people who have immigrated here from Kenya and they have a tough time identifying/befriending "American" blacks and have opted instead to find other new immigrants from Kenya or Africa because of that cultural tie. I bet the same would probably be true for every race/ethnicity (though for Asians, we have a much shorter history in this country in comparison)
Assimilation isn't something that happens overnight, it's something that happens over many years and generations. Luckily, this is a country where we can hopefully meet people wherever they are in that process.
Last edited by pierretong1991; 06-28-2021 at 08:51 AM..
I think you're looking it at it from a perspective of someone whose family has been in the US for many years (maybe generations). If you go up to someone like you and ask what their heritage/culture is, you likely don't have a very close tie to whatever your family's origin is before arriving in the US and just identify as a "American" (even if you are Irish or German or African heritage etc....).
If you are a first or second generation immigrant, you identify with the culture/country that you or your parents have left behind because that's what you're likely have been used to or exposed to for the majority of your life. I know people who have immigrated here from Kenya and they have a tough time identifying/befriending "American" blacks and have opted instead to find other new immigrants from Kenya or Africa because of that cultural tie. I bet the same would probably be true for every race/ethnicity (though for Asians, we have a much shorter history in this country in comparison)
Assimilation isn't something that happens overnight, it's something that happens over many years and generations. Luckily, this is a country where we can hopefully meet people wherever they are in that process.
The double standard extends well beyond just race/nationality though. I used the schools as an example, because they use income and zip code as factors in "diversifying" the schools. They do that because it's the legal way for them to diversify, but the reality is they don't care about income, they care about race. If they could legally assign students to schools based on race, they would.
If I came on here and said "I'm new here, and I want to live in a neighborhood where there's nobody who makes under x per year in income", you can be sure that it would not be acceptable and I'd be called things that I am not. But yet it's perfectly ok to say "I'm <insert minority here> and want to live in a neighborhood with mostly <insert minority here>". Why am I not allowed to live around people that are most like me? Why does my race/nationality matter?
Anyway, way off topic.
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