Places that have received a "great singles scene" rating by Forbes, etc aren't always great places to find a mate...

[badger77]

Originally Posted by michaelsa

I'm sorry if this is a gross generalization, but I assume that people are more likely to get married (and at a younger age) if they were raised in the South, compared to other parts of the country. Feel free to jump all over that one and tear it apart, or back me up if you agree. I'd love to know your thoughts. Thanks!

I am a native southerner and that stereotype is completely contrary to my experience; maybe it was true a generation ago. Does everybody else in the country wait to get married until they are 45? I am a 31 yo woman and never married. Nobody I have ever met here finds that remarkable at all. I know many people my age and older who have never married along with many who have. The youngest of my friends to get married was married when she was 24. There are many quality people here, but don't come south expecting every guy or girl you meet to be ready for the alter!

[tatiana1]

Originally Posted by michaelsa

That makes perfect sense. Thank you for your reply! I guess I'm wondering what are good places to get "not single."

Single people are in every town, city and state. In simple words, single people are EVERYWHERE. There is no one place where to meet one. To answer your question regarding good places to get "not single" is anywhere outside of your home of course. Go out, join groups that interest you, take fun part-time jobs, volunteer, take classes, travel, always be happy and look good..sooner or later, someone will notice.

[seraph]

Originally Posted by rnc2mbfl

I personally view a singles scene differently. For me, a place with a strong singles scene isn't one where finding a mate is a priority but rather a place where one can feel comfortable as a single person. To me, there's nothing worse than being single in a place where everyone is paired. And, for me personally, I want to be somewhere with others who remain single by choice instead of by unfortunate circumstance.
To that end, I feel just fine in my part of Raleigh as I do in my part of Miami Beach. I also seek out activities that don't necessarily focus on finding a way to make me NOT single.

Is your part of Raleigh a particular area or neighborhood? Because this is what I am looking for.