Not Parents, Not Religious... Acceptance in Cary Area? (Raleigh: transplants, to rent)
Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill, CaryThe Triangle Area
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Hello, I am new to this forum and have been reading posts and getting the impression that the Triangle area is a wonderful place to relocate to. My husband and I are considering relocating from CT, and planning a trip to the Triangle area later this month.
Being without children by choice (no we are not mean child haters, just do not choose to be parents), and also not being religious, we feel like "outsiders" here in CT, where most people attend a church, and have lives that revolve around children. We have non-denominational beliefs, are avid animal philanthropists, and hope to support the arts (including children's access to the arts), in our future town of residence.
We are very interested in Cary in particular. We have a home software engineering business, and like close proximity to shopping, services, the airport, etc. We plan to rent a house if we like what we see during our visit, until knowing if the area is for us or not. We also are under the impression that there are abundant housing choices in the Triangle, for new or newer construction, if we want to stay and buy in the future.
Am I correct in my observation that there is such an influx of different cultures and people from all over that have relocated to the Triangle, that my concerns about not being religious are not a big issue? What about the non-parent thing? I welcome thoughts from all... seasoned citizens, and new transplants, on your degree of acceptance there in the Triangle.
I don't think anyone cares one way or another in the Triangle on either point. It's easier to meet people if you're in a church and/or have kids, but that's the only negative. You'll be fine.
We're empty nesters, non-religious and love living in Cary. I have several childless couples as neighbors. I don't think you will have any problem in Cary. Also, there is a meetup group of couples without children in the area. Look it up on
Meetup.com
Good luck!
I can't speak to Cary specifically, but agree with the above comments. Yes, NC is in the "Bible Belt" but there is also a fair bit of diversity here of all types - including religiosity.
Hello, I am new to this forum and have been reading posts and getting the impression that the Triangle area is a wonderful place to relocate to. My husband and I are considering relocating from CT, and planning a trip to the Triangle area later this month.
Being without children by choice (no we are not mean child haters, just do not choose to be parents), and also not being religious, we feel like "outsiders" here in CT, where most people attend a church, and have lives that revolve around children. We have non-denominational beliefs, are avid animal philanthropists, and hope to support the arts (including children's access to the arts), in our future town of residence.
We are very interested in Cary in particular. We have a home software engineering business, and like close proximity to shopping, services, the airport, etc. We plan to rent a house if we like what we see during our visit, until knowing if the area is for us or not. We also are under the impression that there are abundant housing choices in the Triangle, for new or newer construction, if we want to stay and buy in the future.
Am I correct in my observation that there is such an influx of different cultures and people from all over that have relocated to the Triangle, that my concerns about not being religious are not a big issue? What about the non-parent thing? I welcome thoughts from all... seasoned citizens, and new transplants, on your degree of acceptance there in the Triangle.
Thanks!
My two cents are, it's not likely to be an issue an Cary. May be even less likely in west Raleigh (same side of Raleigh as Cary, but still in Raleigh). But you might want to stick to the area north of NCSU (south of NCSU there is a larger concentration of college students, especially undgergraduates). Based on your statement about wanting to be involved in local affairs, you may like this area. (Of course, people who are involved in local affairs live all over.) I've attached a map of the approximate area I'm talking about. The downside is that houses are on the pricey side there. map.pdf
On behalf of the religious parents of Cary, I extend a warm welcome to you. Don't worry, there are many of you in town, and so far I haven't witnessed any uprisings or tire slashings.
There should be no problem at all with either, unless you just happen to have busybody neighbors. Yes, Cary is probably the most child-centric area of the Triangle, but I'm sure there are neighborhoods less so.
You should contact Raleigh No Kidding, a local group for Childfree folks. Get on their email list even before you come down; it's a great way to find out about the many events! They have Happy Hours twice monthly, I believe, book clubs, and all kinds of other events...some are involved in animal rescue groups, even! I used to attend some of the events and still know a few of the regulars, and they are a super bunch of folks!
Thanks for your comments so far... you would be surprised here in our area how "childfree" and "non-churchgoer" can be mis-interpreted as: "you couldn't possibly have faith, be moral or have anything to contribute to this community". We don't mind being around children, as far as the neighborhood goes. In fact, as much as some cynical posters don't like Cary, and HOA's etc., where there are kids and HOA's there are also usually some positive rules and better neighborhood atmosphere. We found that out renting in a HOA community here as opposed to owning "out in the boondocks" where anything goes.
Cary sounds lovely... as does other parts of the Triangle... We are really looking forward to our visit. Thanks for the posts so far!
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