I'm confused, need help! (Raleigh, Bath: transplants, homes, unemployment)

[lilironcha]

I live in Houston, TX for 4 yrs, and I lived in NJ/NY for 14 yrs.

We moved to Houston for a better quality of life. Which we got and love!, however, I missed my family! I don't have any siblings and was raised with my cousins, aunts and a single mom. I been thinking of moving to Raleigh were I have a some family members. I have 2 daughters and I will like them to be raise near the family.

My hubby owns his business in bathroom/kitchen remodeling and I like to know is there any potential market or need out there for remodeling?. I'm a Recruiter, sometimes work from home but currently unemployed due to the economy. But that doesn't worry me. I’m confident I can get a job anywhere.

The reason why I’m so confused is because I don't know if I should make a change in my life because of emotions. I believe been at home doing nothing is putting thru this, I should not be complaining; we are doing ok financially. I’m just bored, I volunteer at the school, enrolled my daughters in activities and still, I feel I’m missing something.
Most of my friends are from NY, which I keep in touch and I have met few people here in TX ,which I called people I know but not true friends. Right now, I’m at stayed at home mom and I think I'm tired of the Houston atmosphere. My problem is my husband loves it here and don’t want to make any moved anywhere. Now, do I have a problem???

[he's so hott]

I won't say if you have a problem. What I will say is that you shouldn't make an important decision based on your emotions or that you're bored. You said that you have found a wonder quality of life in Houston. Great! Take a couple of trips per year to visit your family here but don't uproot your immediate family in this economy based on emotions or being bored.

[CHTransplant]

Originally Posted by he's so hott

I won't say if you have a problem. What I will say is that you shouldn't make an important decision based on your emotions or that you're bored.

I dunno - I've made many important decisions in my life based on silly emotions like love.

[lovebrentwood]

Unemployment here is much worse than Texas. You are fortunate to being doing okay financially. I believe that based on other indicators that home remodeling in the Triangle is most likely down.

Is there a Meetup in Houston? Find friends. Make new connections.

If there isn't a group to your liking in Meetup, then start one. Maybe a "New York Club." or "NY/NJ Club" and invite fellow transplants. Or volunteer.

Continue to keep up with all your friends and relatives in NY/NJ. Try to visit at least once a year -- or more. Use Skype with a webcam whenever you can. If you keep in contact with your close friends via phone and email, it certainly lessens the feelings of homesickness. (Get unlimited long distance.) Some people aren't comfortable with long distance phone/email but are wonderful in person; so that's why you need to visit them on a regular basis.

The people I've seen here who have been most successful with a move are those who can surround themselves with a new support system, in essence, "find their own 'relatives.' " (And new friends.)

It's not easy to be away from those you miss. I know from experience. Good luck!

[lilironcha]

Thanks for your advice, this really helps me out. I'm planning to visit my relatives in July and probably visit Raleigh in June. God Bless!

[meadowdreamr]

My husband is a Contractor specializing in Kitchen/Bathroom remodeling and business is definately down right now in the Triangle Area.

[1WVULAWGRAD]

What don't you specifically like about Houston? I plan on moving my family there after I graduate from law school next year, and I have no family or friends there. My wife wants to be a teacher then principal. Please reply when you have the chance I would love to hear whats wrong with where you are...