Looking for gay/gay friendly primary care doctor in Cary (Raleigh: live in, professionals)

[grdowntown]

Hey I am new to the Triangle and am looking for a gay/gay friendly primary care doctor. Can you point me in the direction of the Cary recommendation? not really sure how this works here

[Francois]

Originally Posted by grdowntown

Hey I am new to the Triangle and am looking for a gay/gay friendly primary care doctor. Can you point me in the direction of the Cary recommendation? not really sure how this works here

There is another thread about this, but I'm the apparent "go to" guy on this--PM me me for details (click on my user name and "send a private message).

[nogard13]

grdowntown,

Sorry to steer the thread in another direction, but I have a question that pertains to your post. Recently I've noticed that many in the gay community seek out professionals that are gay/gay friendly. Having come from Washington DC (where there is a huge gay community and the population is just about homogeneous with the straight population), I just find it hard to imagine people who would refuse to work for a gay person (like some would for a Latino/Black/Asian). Is this prevalent and I'm just not aware of it? Or, is it a comfort thing where you feel more comfortable dealing with another gay person, if possible?

I apologize for my ignorance, but I just don't care if the professionals I hire are Hispanic (like me) or not, so long as they're professional and not bigots.

[Usedtobe VaNC]

I am not gay, but interestingly, go to a gay doctor. Anyway, I certainly can not speak for grdowntown, but think that for some people, when choosing a person who will you will be dealing with on matters of personal health, it is more comfortable for some people to have someone that shares similar values. Yes, you want a doctor that has good credentials, etc. but you also want a doctor who will not judge you, make you feel uncomfortable, etc. I choose my doctor because I knew, from talking to other patients, that she aligns with many of my opinions on care and other things, so I am very comfortable with her. I am guessing that grdowntown would be comfortable with many doctors, but by just short cutting her search to gay doctors, she/he is saving time in her/his search and assuring a certain comfort level. Grdowntown, my doctor, if you are interested, is in Raleigh and only sees women, although she is a GP. Let me know if you are interested.

[Francois]

Originally Posted by nogard13

grdowntown,

Sorry to steer the thread in another direction, but I have a question that pertains to your post. Recently I've noticed that many in the gay community seek out professionals that are gay/gay friendly. Having come from Washington DC (where there is a huge gay community and the population is just about homogeneous with the straight population), I just find it hard to imagine people who would refuse to work for a gay person (like some would for a Latino/Black/Asian). Is this prevalent and I'm just not aware of it? Or, is it a comfort thing where you feel more comfortable dealing with another gay person, if possible?

I apologize for my ignorance, but I just don't care if the professionals I hire are Hispanic (like me) or not, so long as they're professional and not bigots.

nogard, this whole issue has been hashed and rehashed in the earlier thread about a gay-friendly local doctor. You can find it by searching the forum. The bottom line is, gay people have often been "burned" by homophobic health care workers, or even those who may think they are gay-friendly but make offensive remarks. Mostly, though, you need to be 100% comfortable with your GP and be able to talk 100% frankly about all health matters, including sex and mental health issues. Even someone who is not "anti-gay" may not be comfortable with frank discussions about some matter, or have no experience in dealing with patients who are, for example, depressed because their family rejects them or their partner. Even in DC, I suspect that there are doctors who may have "no ill will" toward gay people but at the same time, are not as up-to-date on the issues as a gay person might want. and Raleigh is not DC when it comes to such matters that are more common in large urban areas.

Frankly, I have a real question wondering why someone can't ask a question as grdowntown did without the inevitable "What's wrong with heterosexual doctors??" responses that ensue, in thread after thread. If a person wants to request a doc who is transsexual, left-handed, 6'11", born in February and speaks Thai, that should be their right, without being challenged on it. They might not find one, but they have a right to ask.

[Alf_Rocks]

I sent you a DM in the case that Francois' recommendation(s) is not taking new patients. The only issue is that she is in Raleigh. My wife and I live in Cary and both see her. Well worth the trip though.

[gardengrows]

Originally Posted by Usedtobe VaNC

I am not gay, but interestingly, go to a gay doctor. Anyway, I certainly can not speak for grdowntown, but think that for some people, when choosing a person who will you will be dealing with on matters of personal health, it is more comfortable for some people to have someone that shares similar values. Yes, you want a doctor that has good credentials, etc. but you also want a doctor who will not judge you, make you feel uncomfortable, etc. I choose my doctor because I knew, from talking to other patients, that she aligns with many of my opinions on care and other things, so I am very comfortable with her. I am guessing that grdowntown would be comfortable with many doctors, but by just short cutting her search to gay doctors, she/he is saving time in her/his search and assuring a certain comfort level. Grdowntown, my doctor, if you are interested, is in Raleigh and only sees women, although she is a GP. Let me know if you are interested.

Hello - I know this thread is not current, but if you see this, I would very much appreciate knowing who your GP in Raleigh is who is gay and only sees women.

[zitsky]

Originally Posted by gardengrows

Hello - I know this thread is not current, but if you see this, I would very much appreciate knowing who your GP in Raleigh is who is gay and only sees women.

You may not get a response by replying to an 11 year old thread. I see you've posted the same question more than once. I suggest you will get your answers in a more recent thread.