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Not that it matters, but I've never thrown a house warming party for myself. Not in a rental and not in either of the 2 homes I've owned so far. I'm thinking about doing something for my new home - under construction and that I will move into in December. Not for gifts but because I think it's going to be so gorgeous I want more people to get a chance to admire it! of course it's tacky to say no gifts on an invitation, so I'm not sure how I'll handle that part of it.
Not that it matters, but I've never thrown a house warming party for myself. Not in a rental and not in either of the 2 homes I've owned so far. I'm thinking about doing something for my new home - under construction and that I will move into in December. Not for gifts but because I think it's going to be so gorgeous I want more people to get a chance to admire it! of course it's tacky to say no gifts on an invitation, so I'm not sure how I'll handle that part of it.
If you really want to show it off, then just have a cookout on a holiday, like Labor Day. DON'T call it a housewarming.
No one will assume they are to bring gifts. And if you're inviting the OP, better not make it potluck!!
To the OP, would it be acceptable to you if they didn't have to sublet rooms? Why do you care how they managed to afford to get into the house. It seems odd that you are focused on the rental and odder that you care how they are making ends meet and what they can "afford". You don't sound like you like these people very much. I'd skip the party.
bring them a package of venison, even if its frozen,,thats my house-warming go to gift- if they don't want it,,,then you take it home..
I think the gift giving has gone too damn far,,,
ive taken myself off the marriage invite list,,, there should be an etiquette rule, if the marriage goes to hell within 5 years,,,then you have to return the gift value in money-
im done with giving nice gifts,,,,and they break up within a year,,
although an open bar reception might still get me there
People can throw parties for whatever reason or no reason at all. Though I'm not the partying type, didn't even host a house warming party for my first house.
I suspect some of the people here who say it is snobbish to suggest otherwise are the same people who would do this or have done it. :-)
According to etiquettehell.com it is not appropriate to call it a house warming party. That does typically signify home OWNERSHIP, not renting a place you can only afford due to subletting extra rooms.
Something tells me its more like cheap or no food and the expectancy of lavish gifts
I was thinking that too. I was also thinking, why is the OP obsessed? It's simple. Either go or don't go. If going, either bring a gift or don't. Note that there are dollar stores all over!
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Originally Posted by mainebrokerman
ive taken myself off the marriage invite list,,, there should be an etiquette rule,
Hey, I do that too! I was invited to one by acquaintances about a decade ago, thought to myself, "Yeah, like that is gonna last 5 years. Not!" I declined. I think the 5 year estimate was about spot on!
When my husband and I bought our first house together we had a house warming party. We did not expect gifts and only a few people brought one. We just wanted to show our friends and family our new place and get together with everyone. Maybe they want to have a party now that they are in a house and have the room. I don't think a gift is expected.
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of course it's tacky to say no gifts on an invitation, so I'm not sure how I'll handle that part of it.
