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Not to pre-empt the person you're asking, but I have some experience in blitz-style house hunting.
I find looking at houses exhausting. It's essential to get enough sleep and eat a good breakfast. Try to get your real estate agent to let you stop for a quick lunch (some will schedule showings right through the lunch hour).
The houses will all blur together after a while, so make lots of notes on each listing sheet the agent provides. You will be amazed at how little you recall of the first house you saw, until you read, "Cr@ppy master bedroom/loved the yard," or something like.
Sellers may cancel showings with little warning. Then, you and your agent will be high and dry till the next showing. Make notes, go over your notes, ask the agent questions...anything so as not to waste this bit of found time.
The big advantage of the "blitz" method is that your brain is constantly comparing and learning, even when you are not aware of it. After steadily viewing houses in your chosen location/price range, the "standard" house in that range will become apparent to you - and the "gems" and "dogs" will stand out.
Good luck. Something tells me you're an energetic, spirited person who will power through this hard time.
I did the blitz when we relocated. I had one afternoon to find a house since the one we agreed to fell apart just before I was heading home. I took hundreds of photos and made a lot of notes. I got a laser measurer to measure rooms.....that was my one chance to do it. I also made notes in my notebook about what each room was and where it was so it all made sense with the photos. My husband and I bought the house based on my notes and the photos. He never saw the house in person until a few hours before the closing. He was amazed at how well I conveyed all the info to him with photos and notes.
I would not look to buy a new house once this one sells. I would look for a decent apartment and a job. Yes, it will be challenging finding a job given your situation. Maybe it's time to go to school and learn some skills or a trade. By renting, you will have saved that money from the sale of the house and can use it to pay tuition or classes to educate yourself. Be realistic about your budget. You probably will have to move to another town. It is NOT the end of the world! You will recover from this!
Thank you for the positive vibes! That's a good suggestion except that I can't move to another town and retain 50% custody of my son. And he's my #1 priority. The divorce has been hard on him and he has a lot of anxiety. I'll figure out a way. You're right, it's not the end of the world. Many people are in far worse situations than mine. I'm grateful for the things I do have....can't put a price on family.
I'm totally with you gemmom, and very sorry you ended in this situation. I am very saddened.
I wish I had some positive ideas for you. Best I can do right now is send positive vibes your way. I hope it will work out for you. I'll follow your topic and chime in if I have any ideas.
This is untrue. Spouse or Ex-Spouse doesn't need to die.
If you were married 10 years or more and divorce, you can collect 50% of ex-spouses Social Security Benefits, at time of retirement age, UNLESS YOU REMARRY. Ex-spouse can be alive(and can even remarry) and ex spouse would be collecting his own social security benefit. His ss check doesn't impact your 50% and vice versa. If you remarry, you don't get to collect the 50% but I think if you do remarry and divorce again that you can collect the 50% of the first spouse in that case. But I am not 100% sure.
Lots of former spouses do not remarry specifically so they can get the 50% Social Security check of ex-spouse.
I posted about this already(farther up in same thread) and at that time posted a link to the Social Security Administration on this subject. Google has tons of info about it too.
If you were married 10 years or more and divorce, you can collect 50% of ex-spouses Social Security Benefits, at time of retirement age, UNLESS YOU REMARRY.
Thank you for your correction of my misunderstanding the laws.
This is untrue. Spouse or Ex-Spouse doesn't need to die.
If you were married 10 years or more and divorce, you can collect 50% of ex-spouses Social Security Benefits, at time of retirement age, UNLESS YOU REMARRY. Ex-spouse can be alive(and can even remarry) and ex spouse would be collecting his own social security benefit. His ss check doesn't impact your 50% and vice versa. If you remarry, you don't get to collect the 50% but I think if you do remarry and divorce again that you can collect the 50% of the first spouse in that case. But I am not 100% sure.
Lots of former spouses do not remarry specifically so they can get the 50% Social Security check of ex-spouse.
I posted about this already(farther up in same thread) and at that time posted a link to the Social Security Administration on this subject. Google has tons of info about it too.
But if the agreement is so grossly unfair that one party would face severe financial hardship while the other prospered, the court is unlikely to enforce it. Basically, "unconscionable" contracts are generally found invalid, and premarital agreements are no exception.
How about getting a job instead of asking for freebies? I mean, Women can do everything a man can if not BETTER right.
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