Having a Really Hard Time With This Situation.

[nuts2uiam]

Originally Posted by Bigins

While I could’ve done things like have my mother change the will, I didn’t see that as being fair. The house is old, and cold in the Winter. I don’t want to be here for another. My plan was to sell everything and move to Hawaii, I have some friends there. After posting and asking questions on the Hawaii forums, there are no doctors. I need a Dr. including an oncologist. But the only Island with any doctors/specialists is Oahu. My friends don’t live on Oahu.

That, the 14 day quarantine, and their stupid rules on bringing in pets have turned me away.

My real question was, how can I make sure I’m not cheated out of what’s mine? I just shared some personal concerns of mine.

If I’m paying the attorney overseeing the property/estate, why is my sister the only one he will talk to? That’s just how it is? Don’t feel I should be paying him if he won’t work with me along with all of us.

And I tell you, it doesn’t help they’re Trump supporters calling the virus political and a hoax. I’m smart enough to know better than that.

Do you have a copy of the will and know what is YOURS? Or are you just thinking that because of what you did, which is a lot, I grant you, that you are entitled to it? What ever the will states is what will be done and the lawyer will see to that. Since your sister is the executor, the decisions regarding the house and repair will ultimately be up to her.

[hooligan]

Could you not just decline to invest any money into the property repairs and have them debit your portion of the rehab costs from whatever the proceeds are?

If they spend $10K on prepping the house for sale, they each pay $5K and after it sells, you get $3333 debited from your split of the proceeds.

[PacificaViews]

Generally, small fix-ups such as a paint are very worthwhile prior to selling a property. Selling as-is can result in the home going straight to a flipper. Since your sister is the executor, let her do her job. This is never an easy time. Just ask her to keep you in the loop. Some estates are settled fairly, many others not. I came from a family where the male executors took all, leaving sisters out, despite our name on last will. This is why Trusts will specific language are sometimes set up, clarifying exactly how assets are to be handled or distributed. However, hiring lawyers or making repeated calls to the probate attorney, from my experience, just runs up costs, adds to stress levels, and carries no guarantees - usually just added animosity within family. My recommendation is to stay in touch with your sister, be supportive, commend her for her hard work, and hope that everything will be handled fairly.

[Grlzrl]

Hawaii has a very high cost of living.

[kokonutty]

Lawyer fees, rehab and improvement fees all get paid out of the total estate; if you are the only who has cash to lay out to get these things accomplished you are entitled to get that all repaid before the three way split of the net proceeds is made.

Now, stop talking politics, stop talking about your medical conditions - they are all totally irrelevant to the real estate sale. I have a feeling if you go see the estate lawyer or one you choose yourself you'll be running up the bill complaining about such irrelevancies while the clock runs.

Spend the time you save by not focusing on things that have no bearing by figuring out when and where you're going to move so you don't end up creating a problem in selling the house.