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I too have known kids who moved back home for various lengths of time, between jobs, between marriages, ...
I've known mothers to visit for a month or even longer to help care for a child going through medical recovery or care for a grandchild until childcare kicked in.
I've even known parents who live in another country visiting for several weeks, or even months at a time. These are alway planned visits with the homeowners on board with the visit.
But I have never known a "normal" father to announce he is visiting for a month, so the homeowners better get used to the idea.
I think bio dad could turn this into a permanent relocation. Rent free!!
So my view is that is really is none of our business *why* the OP feels the bio father shouldn't be there. OP asked a question about his options, not for an analysis of his reasons. I found it rather amusing that the person who started all the drama later commented on how much drama is in this thread. I also can't help but wonder if OP now regrets starting this thread in the first place.
Amidst all the drama, there was some good advice given, and early on it sounded like OP did the best thing he could do, which was to consult an attorney.
I have a developmentally disabled child, she's still a kid. Definitely a lot of food for thought in this thread but all I can offer the OP is best wishes on resolving what could undoubtedly be a difficult situation.
hey maybe OP is paranoid and bio dad just loves his son, even though they've been apart for a while?
And exactly how can they do this unless they bamboozle the son into signing a quit claim? (in which case, they are being even more manipulative than the bio father.)
The OP/wife aren't trying to screw over the son. He's still getting the house.
I clicked on the title again, because I had forgotten what this post is about, and then read the OP to make sure I had read it correctly the first time.
The title says "Unwanted Guest In a House We Own," but in the OP it says you put the son's name on the title - doesn't matter what his condition is or why you put his name on the title, if only his name is on the title, then he is the sole owner, whether you pay expenses or not (not sure if you ever answered if there's a mortgage and whose name is on that) . . .
IF he is the sole owner, you have no control over who is in the house or why.
IF he owns jointly, with you, then you have a little more leverage, but since he is the person living in the house, his leverage trumps yours.
The bottom line is that he has either most or all of the power to make decisions no matter what his abilities or your opinions are.
The OP/wife aren't trying to screw over the son. He's still getting the house.
You didn't answer the question, and if the son actually wants the bio dad to come visit then they are indeed attempting to screw over the son. And if the son didn't want anything to do with the bio dad then whose name is on the deed wouldn't even be an issue.
I clicked on the title again, because I had forgotten what this post is about, and then read the OP to make sure I had read it correctly the first time.
The title says "Unwanted Guest In a House We Own," but in the OP it says you put the son's name on the title - doesn't matter what his condition is or why you put his name on the title, if only his name is on the title, then he is the sole owner, whether you pay expenses or not (not sure if you ever answered if there's a mortgage and whose name is on that) . . .
IF he is the sole owner, you have no control over who is in the house or why.
IF he owns jointly, with you, then you have a little more leverage, but since he is the person living in the house, his leverage trumps yours.
The bottom line is that he has either most or all of the power to make decisions no matter what his abilities or your opinions are.
Yes, but the OP/wife created this situation (potentially finding someone other than the son living in the property) when the put the son's name on the title.
Ultimately the house will go to the son but the OP/wife need an attorney to sort this out.
You didn't answer the question, and if the son actually wants the bio dad to come visit then they are indeed attempting to screw over the son. And if the son didn't want anything to do with the bio dad then whose name is on the deed wouldn't even be an issue.
It can be anyone. Not just the bio-father. Taking the son's name off the title removes the potential problem of people suddenly moving in. .
Nobody is trying to screw over the son. If he wants to have his bio-father visit.... great.
However, the OP/wife bought the property and don't want anyone outside of the son living there. The only reason the OP/wife put the son's name on the title is for convenience should they suddenly pass away.
It can be anyone. Not just the bio-father. Taking the son's name off the title removes the potential problem of people suddenly moving in. .
Nobody is trying to screw over the son. If he wants to have his bio-father visit.... great.
However, the OP/wife bought the property and don't want anyone outside of the son living there. The only reason the OP/wife put the son's name on the title is for convenience should they suddenly pass away.
It's possible that the bio dad approached the parents first out of respect and the son doesn't even know the drama going on but otherwise this wouldn't even be an issue with them seeing an attorney so they can overrule the son and have the last word if the son felt the same way. So the son must want the dad to come and stay for a month.
If they cannot talk to their son and get him to cooperate and need to have the final word so they can override his wishes then they are indeed trying to screw over the son. Guess he won't ever have a girlfriend either.
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