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I sure would. Family is family. When we were young married, they helped us out a time or two. What's more, I've had to help out my idiot BIL in a couple of his fiascoes.
And, yes, it would make things a lot less fun. So? Whoever said life is supposed to be fun and stress-free?
It isn't? J/K
Honestly our lives have a lot of stress already and I worry that it may not bear the added stress. Especially when a little responsible behavior on their part would go a long way to helping themselves and as well as us.
Honestly our lives have a lot of stress already and I worry that it may not bear the added stress. Especially when a little responsible behavior on their part would go a long way to helping themselves and as well as us.
robee, no question, your kids deserved your full attention and don't shortchange them just to help your parents. Of course, do what you can for your folks, but not to the point of putting your mental or physical health at risk, your kids need you healthy
robee, no question, your kids deserved your full attention and don't shortchange them just to help your parents. Of course, do what you can for your folks, but not to the point of putting your mental or physical health at risk, your kids need you healthy
robee, no question, your kids deserved your full attention and don't shortchange them just to help your parents. Of course, do what you can for your folks, but not to the point of putting your mental or physical health at risk, your kids need you healthy
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Originally Posted by seeniorita
I agree!
Thanks Guys.
Just a quick update: I just got back from visiting my parents this morning. My dad's feeling a little better today, which made me feel a little better too.
I guess all the anxiety caught up to me this week and my husband picked up on it. We talked about it and the bottom line: I am married to an incredible and honorable man. He will not let his personal feelings towards my parents get in the way of us doing the right thing, if and when the time comes.
Just a quick update: I just got back from visiting my parents this morning. My dad's feeling a little better today, which made me feel a little better too.
I guess all the anxiety caught up to me this week and my husband picked up on it. We talked about it and the bottom line: I am married to an incredible and honorable man. He will not let his personal feelings towards my parents get in the way of us doing the right thing, if and when the time comes.
Glad to hear it! Your husband is indeed a wondferul and honorable man to stand behind you should the need ever arises in this situation.
[quote=robee70;14585517]I do feel very lucky [/quote/}
You know, "like attracts like" so it is only natural that you attracted that kind of a mate. Your desire to show unconditional love and care for your ailing parent shows that.
This thread came at a great time for me.
I just got off the phone with my mother. She and Dad live 600 miles from us. Although my brother lives in the same town as my parents, he has been virtually estranged from all of us for many years. He only comes around when he thinks there is a chance my parents will give him money (like his birthday/Christmas). So, it is up to me to take care of them if there is ever a need.
So far things have been okay. Today, however, my Mom kicked my Dad out of the house. (long story, rocky marriage for the last 3 years). Anyway...
I now can't depend on them to take care of each other, to let me know if there is a problem, or anything. They don't tell me anything is "up" until someone is in the hospital. I am at a loss as to what to do. I am a working mother of 3 (two are in college and financially dependent, one is in 4th grade.) My husband is very supportive but also has a full time job. We are busy people and pay our own way but don't have a ton of extra. What extra we do have goes to retirement. I can't just pick up and drive 600 miles once a month to check on these two.
What do the rest of you do that have aging parents far away?
They need to sell their home if they have one and get into a place where they can both live and be cared for. Also elderly public housing often has ancillary services.
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