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Old 06-12-2010, 07:08 PM
 
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Any hobby when taken to extremes can be detrimental for a relationship.

I would advise that you speak to him that he spends too much time on video games, and even get some counselling to work through this. A best case scenario may be to refrain from playing for a while, but the worst case could be addiction. Obviously that should be avoided at all costs.
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Old 06-13-2010, 11:09 AM
 
Location: Mountains of Oregon
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Sometimes, together, we enjoy going to the casino & playing video poker, or other slots.



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Old 06-14-2010, 03:49 PM
 
Location: Denver
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I love videogames, but I prefer women.
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Old 06-14-2010, 04:27 PM
 
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Yes it can affect your relationship because you're so used to turning off the video game console by using the power button on the remote that you actually try to use it on the wife and find that it doesn't work. :grin:
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Old 06-14-2010, 04:36 PM
 
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I'd take a night out with a woman I'm in love with over the playstation any night of the week....and I probably play a good share of my Call of Duty. But I always choose to do other things when able. I always work out first, I usually call up friends and do something, or if I'm really tired and can't/don't want to go out and do something, then it's PS3 time. As for people who would choose video games over other fun things in life, I just don't see how they can do it.
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Old 06-14-2010, 04:58 PM
 
Location: Arizona
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I think that yes, gaming can ruin a relationship.

My husband and I didn't live together until after we married. He works second shift and until we lived together, the topic of what he did prior to going to work never came up. I figured he tended to his home, yard, etc. Wrong! I didn't realize what a gamer he was until it was too late.

Now we've been married for two years and I hate the gaming. I see it as a waste of time and money. He wakes up in the morning, stumbles to the coffee pot, smokes a cigarette, and plops down in front if his PC until he leaves for work. He does NOTHING around the house. His chores are to pick up after the dog in the yard and take the trash bins to the curb. The trash he does, but we went over 3 months without the dog waste being picked up. I finally did it one day while it was 105 outside and his response was, "I was going to get to that." He hates it when I ask him for help. Yesterday I had the flu but managed to do all our laundry. I didn't get around to swiffering or mopping our floors and when I threw out a comment about him pitching in and taking care of it...his response was, "yeah right."

He is one of the laziest people I know, but when he does decide to work, he works hard. Still, my cooking gets the blame for him being out of shape. Nevermind that he sits on his arse for 14+ hours per day and smokes over a pack a day.

But there is one positive to the gaming....I get to have my "alone" time to watch a movie he has no interest in, go for a walk, relax, etc.
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Old 06-14-2010, 05:16 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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I have a bf who constantly plays WoW. We live together. He does ZERO chores around the house. We have a huge yard, garage, etc. He has not mowed the grass in over a year. I actually can't think of one time someone has done it other than me, his dad, or my sister. He comes home from work, plops down in front of the stupid game and plays until 11 or 12. Then does that Saturday and Sunday from morning until evening mostly. It gets effing old. So frigging sick of his sentences cut out halfway through with some comment he has to make through his headphones to the people who have the most urgency in his life. We have been through some sh*t, but this is by far the most destructive to our relationship. I have lost respect for him and think he's a lazy unmotivated little jerk.

Last week I had some kind of respiratory infection and there were 3 days when I was miserable and had no energy. I never ask him to help me with anything, but I had to go over to the barn and take care of the horses. I asked if he'd help and he groaned (this interrupted his quality gaming time) and said ok. And I told him, "Ya know, I really wouldn't ask you to help if I didn't feel really awful." I waited a couple of minutes and headed over. About the time I finished and started walking back to the house, he was getting in his truck to _drive_ over. A couple days later I was taking a day trip with my sister and I asked if he could take the trash to the dump. I had already put it all in the back of my truck, too. He hates being asked to actually do anything... Anyway, we were gone 8 hours and got home to the trash all still sitting there. And I went down to our bedroom and he hadn't gotten into anything other than his shorts and the stupid game and was like, "Is it me or is it cold down here?" I was like, "Dude. It's you. It's because you haven't done anything."
You have to wonder who the bigger fool is in this situation.
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Old 06-14-2010, 05:38 PM
 
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You have to wonder who the bigger fool is in this situation.
HA! And wonder who has the most gaping arse on cd.

I can understand the statement. I really can. It's easy looking from the outside in when you don't have any 'feelings' to complicate your perspective.
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Old 06-14-2010, 05:40 PM
 
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I think that yes, gaming can ruin a relationship.

My husband and I didn't live together until after we married. He works second shift and until we lived together, the topic of what he did prior to going to work never came up. I figured he tended to his home, yard, etc. Wrong! I didn't realize what a gamer he was until it was too late.

Now we've been married for two years and I hate the gaming. I see it as a waste of time and money. He wakes up in the morning, stumbles to the coffee pot, smokes a cigarette, and plops down in front if his PC until he leaves for work. He does NOTHING around the house. His chores are to pick up after the dog in the yard and take the trash bins to the curb. The trash he does, but we went over 3 months without the dog waste being picked up. I finally did it one day while it was 105 outside and his response was, "I was going to get to that." He hates it when I ask him for help. Yesterday I had the flu but managed to do all our laundry. I didn't get around to swiffering or mopping our floors and when I threw out a comment about him pitching in and taking care of it...his response was, "yeah right."

He is one of the laziest people I know, but when he does decide to work, he works hard. Still, my cooking gets the blame for him being out of shape. Nevermind that he sits on his arse for 14+ hours per day and smokes over a pack a day.

But there is one positive to the gaming....I get to have my "alone" time to watch a movie he has no interest in, go for a walk, relax, etc.
Now *that* is so true. The upside is all the time you get to spend alone.

These gaming addicts do live a repulsive life. Can so relate. It's "my" fault he's a lazy ba5tard.
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Old 06-14-2010, 05:44 PM
 
Location: Wherever women are
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I was a computer game junkie until I turned 21. And then I grew up.

If men cannot give up on the computer games, they are mentally retarded and cretin-brained. Wait, both mean the same

Of course, I run into these joystick chopsticks once in a while. I just wish they can only divert that energy into something productive for the society.
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