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Old 06-14-2010, 02:32 PM
 
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If you don't listen to the advice people give you when you ask for it, don't bother.

And sometimes being yourself really doesn't cut it.
I disagree. I think in most if not all situations, being oneself works if you best forward one's best foot forward.
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Old 06-14-2010, 05:26 PM
 
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Yes...simplify, simplify, simplify! Dating gurus/coaches have a tendency to over-complicate the dating process and human relationships in general. They add fluff to basic friendship principles because they want to sell books or magazines. I promise you that everything you need to know about starting and keeping a relationship you learned in elementary school. Anytime you hear someone talk about "a system" the alarms should go off. Just to put this in perspective....think about all the weight loss systems, including diets, that are advertised. All most people need to realize is eat less and burn more calories. For dating, I suggest:

1. Be friendly to women and give her lots of smiles and eye contact.
2. Watch to see if she likes you. Women tend to get near men to guage their interest.
3. If she diggs you, ask her out.
4. Treat each other well.
5. If not, get over it by finding someone else.

DONE!
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Old 06-14-2010, 06:07 PM
 
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I disagree. I think in most if not all situations, being oneself works if you best forward one's best foot forward.
How do you know that one's best foot isn't filthy, stinky and raw from a life lacking in proper care and pedicuring? And what do you know about "most if not all situations"?
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Old 06-14-2010, 06:19 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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Wow. Deep stuff in that OP.
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Old 06-14-2010, 08:04 PM
 
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How do you know that one's best foot isn't filthy, stinky and raw from a life lacking in proper care and pedicuring? And what do you know about "most if not all situations"?
Because even people with bad personalities (even though bad personality is probably a relative term) can attract people. A rude person may attract people with his/her looks, or charisma/charm, intellect, etc.

It's sappy to say, but there is somebody for everybody. I think the key to dating is simply to be oneself.

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Some guys make common mistakes and have some ways of thinking that will hurt them..
When they are seeking dates/relationships.
I have found a few of the "Gurus" to be pretty dead-on a few subjects.
Perhaps. But more often than not, they simply put a one size fits all model, which can never really work.
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Old 06-14-2010, 08:19 PM
 
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I've never heard of a dating guru. Probably bunk.
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Old 06-14-2010, 08:22 PM
 
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Because even people with bad personalities (even though bad personality is probably a relative term) can attract people. A rude person may attract people with his/her looks, or charisma/charm, intellect, etc.

It's sappy to say, but there is somebody for everybody.
This is true, there is someone for everyone. With this in mind, there should be no need for a dating "guru" if you don't care what kind of person you're with. Anyone can get laid.
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Old 06-14-2010, 09:33 PM
 
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Based on what I've seen, dating gurus charge people thousands of dollars to tell them what they want to hear. Said people then describe hearing what they wanted to hear as "eye-opening". In other words, it's simultaneously hilarious and sad.
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Old 06-14-2010, 09:35 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Does it make sense to use dating gurus?

Dating doesn't have to be complex, does it?

It simply boils down to:

- Be yourself
- Know what you want
Dating can be hard as balls.
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Old 06-15-2010, 02:01 AM
 
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Dating can be hard as balls.
How so?
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