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Yes, but how does the person receiving it know it is genuine? That gets into trust and if someone is really feeling hurt, they may not trust the person expressing the regret.
You look them straight in the eye and tell them. I don't know about others, but when I make a promise or have genuine sympathy or an apology they know it is real! You can't fake that.
It strikes me from what I read that many people have very different opinions on saying "I am sorry."
In my view "I am sorry" is to be used when you have upset someone from your words or behavior. It is not to be qualified most times with insincerity such as "I am sorry you feel that way" since it might be telling the other person that if they did not feel that way, they would not need an apology. Thus putting the blame on the other person for making you apologize to them. Politicians are famous for the fake apology "I am sorry that some people might feel I did anything wrong." It is an apology without contrition or desire to change what they have done.
However, I see some people feel anytime a person needs to apologize it is a waste of time. You do not believe them. They are without redemption. Only pitiful,weak, and lying individuals use sorry to escape their just retribution for bad actions/words. These type only result to the apology to deflect with no desire to change, or at least that is how a person that does not accept "I am sorry" believes.
Now I will admit for my view there are times for "I am sorry you feel that way", it is a degree of Social lubricant that can paste over minor irritations. It allows both people to save face. That is if both persons are not really upset.
What do others think about using an apology? When should you resort to it?
Who did what to you? lol j/k Actually I say it if I was at wrong. Or say I want to keep a friendship.
I think I know where Raena was headed in joking way, a lot of times questions are posed as "hypothetical", as the thread evolves you find the OP has personal experiences they didn't want to immediately share.
Apology needs to be sincere...One of the signs that the person's apology is heartfelt is when he/she actually describes what she did wrong, instead off just saying "sorry".
I never ask for apology, otherwise I don't feel that it comes from the heart and I don't even really care whether or not I get the actual words of apology either. If the actions of this person show me that he regrets what he did, that's enough for me.
I think I know where Raena was headed in joking way, a lot of times questions are posed as "hypothetical", as the thread evolves you find the OP has personal experiences they didn't want to immediately share.
I think I know where Raena was headed in joking way, a lot of times questions are posed as "hypothetical", as the thread evolves you find the OP has personal experiences they didn't want to immediately share.
Certainly I have had experiences around the I be sorry scenario. However I started the Topic with no particular one in mine. I had noticed a earlier Sorry thread that had people expressing views that people had that are strange to my way of thinking. One thing when dealing with people is to realize how different we look at things sometimes even something as seemingly easy as a definition. Thus Communication problems happen.
Any time two people are in a Relationship they should keep in mind that what seems reasonable to one might be a horror the other person. You will see it in the answers already here on this Topic. It is good in my view to find those differences out so that you can relate better.
So no, nothing hidden and ugly about to pour forth.
Certainly I have had experiences around the I be sorry scenario. However I started the Topic with no particular one in mine. I had noticed a earlier Sorry thread that had people expressing views that people had that are strange to my way of thinking. One thing when dealing with people is to realize how different we look at things sometimes even something as seemingly easy as a definition. Thus Communication problems happen.
Any time two people are in a Relationship they should keep in mind that what seems reasonable to one might be a horror the other person. You will see it in the answers already here on this Topic. It is good in my view to find those differences out so that you can relate better.
So no, nothing hidden and ugly about to pour forth.
Have an open mind is what we all need to have and take the time to understand another person's perspective.
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Actually I say it if I was at wrong. Or say I want to keep a friendship.
I agree!
