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Old 06-21-2010, 02:28 PM
 
Location: Astoria, NY
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I did not say they wanted to get with you but if they are your friends and you and have a job and you should say thanks for the offer but I have my own money and I can buy my own drinks but thanks anyway.
See, any of my male friends would find that bizarre. When my ex goes out with me, his other ex, and her current boyfriend, both of the guys take turns paying. When I go out with my best friend (who is female), we take turns paying (actually I pay more often than not, since she makes less money than I do).
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Old 06-21-2010, 02:30 PM
 
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My roommate drives me around because he wants to, in fact, he seems very discouraging of helping me learn how to drive, because even if you take driver's ed., you have to practice to learn how to drive and he doesn't seem interested. I'm no more taking advantage of him by him driving me places than he's taking advantage of me by having me cook for him and make his bed.
wtf? lol

Do you like being the controlled damsel in distress who needs a ride and lets others pay her way?
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Old 06-21-2010, 02:34 PM
 
Location: Astoria, NY
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Do you like being the controlled damsel in distress who needs a ride and lets others pay her way?
Am I a damsel in distress? I wasn't aware of it! I happen to like cooking for others.

And if I required others to pay my way, what the heck would I need a full-time job for? I need to get on that bandwagon full-time!
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Old 06-21-2010, 02:40 PM
 
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Free advice. Worth less or more than free drinks.

Sounds as you need to gain your independence, live on your own. Get used to paying for things yourself so that when you do get something from someone else you realize that there is nothing free in life. Your present lifestyle has a cost that will come with a bill someday that you might not wish to face.

All the people writing to you are trying to warn you of the bridge out ahead. Proceed at your own hazard.
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Old 06-21-2010, 02:48 PM
 
Location: Astoria, NY
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Get used to paying for things yourself...
If you haven't been paying attention, I've been paying for things myself since the age of 14. A few drinks here and there haven't changed that.
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Old 06-21-2010, 02:53 PM
 
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If you haven't been paying attention, I've been paying for things myself since the age of 14. A few drinks here and there haven't changed that.
Oh... you are paying for your car, your house, taxes and upkeep on it, your nights out? Well thats a different story, my apologies.
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Old 06-21-2010, 02:55 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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If you haven't been paying attention, I've been paying for things myself since the age of 14. A few drinks here and there haven't changed that.
Does your ex make you pay part of the bills and rent/mortgage? I asked before, but you didn't answer me. You don't have to answer me obviously, I'm just curious.
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Old 06-21-2010, 02:57 PM
 
Location: NY metro area
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I have to get a driver's license to consider moving out, the horse has to come before the carriage. Traditionally, most people learn how to drive when they are in high school, not when they have a full-time job and have to cook and clean. I do have significant responsibilities, to myself and this house, and yes to my roommate. I have no need to "take on" anything else.

You're making excuses when it comes to learning how to drive.

I know plenty of folks who moved/lived on their own without having cars or being able to drive, my legally blind girlfriend being one of them. And yes, it was done on Long Island (Nass. Cty) and eventually Queens which offered better transportation/options because of her disability.
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Old 06-21-2010, 05:32 PM
 
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Okay, even though I find that living with your ex while dating his friend is very bizarre, I'm just going to brush that aside cause I'm not going to go deep into that.

That doesn't mean that I'm commending her, people, okay?


Anyway, a guy who never had kids and is 10 years older than you...scratch that----


Guy + ALCOHOL CONSUMPTION MORE THAN AVERAGE + CONTROLLING ATTITUDE = BIG TROUBLE!!

I don't know nor care if you're dating this guy because you want the ex to be jealous or, whatever, the main thing is, that you, who is 2 years younger than I am should drop this guy. You deserve the respect of a guy who is giving you the "feel good" stuff in the bedroom and basically, you're maybe just the "pretty little toy" that he can boss around. If I'm wrong, ask him what does he see in you. I'm just saying that you should dump da bozo.
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Old 06-27-2010, 10:26 PM
 
Location: PRC
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No good keep telling her the same thing. Just let the thread die 'cos she has had her question answered now and it is up to her what she does. We have given our best advice (since she asked) and now she has to learn from her actions. In the end it is like banging your head against a brick wall - it is nice when it stops.

Ever noticed how you can tell someone something 'til you are blue in the face with telling them. Then someone else will come along and say exactly the same thing and the person will listen. Just boils down to "there is a right time for everything" - including advice.
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