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I worked as a temp at a company a year ago for a week and struck up a work friendship with a guy there. We exchanged email addresses and the rest is history. Since then we are emailing each other up to a dozen times a day. I am 30 years old and he is 42, so there is a age gap. Oh, both of us are married and not to each other.
I tell my friends about my email friend who I have not seen in a few months and some of them think it is wrong, while others are jealous. There is no flirting, or expectation of a real affair. Our email conversations are just about general topics we are interested in such as politics and current events and music and movies. Both of us work in boring slow jobs where we have lots of time on our hands. So the emails keep us busy and engaged in a boring job.
What do you think? Is it wrong to email so many times to a married man? (Remember we rarely see each other and there is no flirting) If your spouse had a married man or woman (of the opposite sex) that they emailed back and forth to to ease the boredom of a slow job, would you be angry?
I was in that exact same situation....My ex started out being friends with a girl in Texas. She was younger than him as well...and I read some of them at the beginning. For a good six months I found nothing except emotional cheating..Because he was sharing things with her that he had not told me..little details about his day etc. Then it became more....So we split up.
So you can say to yourself and ask others to try to make you feel better...But you and him are having an emotional affair. I have a great husband now and there is no correspondence that he can not read...cause I am an open book to him. He is my mate and he knows more about me than any friend ever will.
I sincerely hope neither of you have children..and I do feel sorry for your husband and his wife. The stunt you two are pulling is hurtful..they will be hurt first. And they do nothing to deserve that. If you are bored at work as you say....why not do a crossword puzzle..or ask for some more work to do. BY all means do not set here and think we are not "smart" enough to figure this out. You are looking for an excuse and you will not find one from me....What you are doing is wrong..plain and simple.
Hmm...I could maybe understand an email now and then, like say, maybe two or three a week, between you and your marrined friend, but I just find up to a dozen a day to be a bit excessive. Or maybe obsessive.
My take on this whole deal? You're in a boring, unfulfilling marriage and you're already entertaining thoughts and/or fantasies about taking your email relationship to the next level. The progression would most likely begin with lunch, and then come to fruition between the sheets in some No-Tell Motel.
I also think that deep down, you too know this whole email thing is wrong, or you wouldn't be asking us about it.
Oh yeah, one more thing: your hubby is a wimp.
But I'm guessing you've already figured that one out.
Last edited by DrummerBoy; 02-09-2011 at 08:39 PM..
I get 20 or more every day from some sexy woman wanting me to look at her dirty pics and buy Viagra. I think she lives in Nigeria and wants to send me a check for $10m that the President left in her bank.
you're filling up a void/sharing details to someone that you could be sharing to someone else in your "real life"
it's a false sense of satisfaction/happiness if any comes from it
get off your email account and start sharing/talking about those things to people in the real world
Given that this thread is 10 mths old, what may have started out as a friendship turning into an emmotional affair is either over or has developed into a physical affair. I guess we'll never know being the OP is no longer a member.
Given that this thread is 10 mths old, what may have started out as a friendship turning into an emmotional affair is either over or has developed into a physical affair. I guess we'll never know being the OP is no longer a member.
He blocked her emails, she went into his junk folder and is now history.
I'll bet the wife found out and has one of thise keystroke programs hidden on his computer. Do you think that would work ?
I see nothing wrong with it. Im sure it helps past the time. Just dont tell your husband.
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