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I've been married to my wife for almost 5 years. We are both in our late 20's, no kids and both of us work. My wife has never been happy at the jobs she's worked at. Her current job was ok for a while, but now she hates her boss. While I am on her side and sympathize, she is not handling it well and she is shooting herself in the foot by not covering her a-- and taking precautions instead of taking it all way too personally.
While I understand that she needs to vent, the venting has become a problem. She not only complains when we're at home, but she sends me text messages at work, threatening to quit, or she'll call me in a desperate state. Unfortunately, I find this hard to deal with and I have been suffering from anxiety as of late because I'm scared that she'll either have a nervous breakdown, or quit....and we're not able to survive on my income alone, nor do we have "options" to fall back on. I have tried to ask her not to text or call me at work venting, because on top of my own stress at work, it's simply too much for me to deal with and I tend to freak out, which causes arguments and leads to "I won't tell you anything anymore" and the guilt trip.
I am sure she thinks we'll just move back in with her mother if the s--t hits the fan, but I would rather sleep on a park bench than entertain that notion.
Am I wrong for being thoroughly sick of this? Ladies in particular, I want you to answer that. I know women like to vent and we're supposed to listen, but this is too much, especially as I cannot DO anything to help her in the sense of saying "ok honey, just quit and I'll take care of you until you find another job" (jobs are also hard to come by). I have given her my advice; I told her to document everything and take the issue up with HR).
What should I do? I guess she doesn't understand that the stress of it is affecting me too, since. I have my own problems at work to deal with. I avoid going home until late because of this situation. I have also started drinking and I'm contemplating ending this as I am losing my sanity.
I've been married to my wife for almost 5 years. We are both in our late 20's, no kids and both of us work. My wife has never been happy at the jobs she's worked at. Her current job was ok for a while, but now she hates her boss. While I am on her side and sympathize, she is not handling it well and she is shooting herself in the foot by not covering her a-- and taking precautions instead of taking it all way too personally.
While I understand that she needs to vent, the venting has become a problem. She not only complains when we're at home, but she sends me text messages at work, threatening to quit, or she'll call me in a desperate state. Unfortunately, I find this hard to deal with and I have been suffering from anxiety as of late because I'm scared that she'll either have a nervous breakdown, or quit....and we're not able to survive on my income alone, nor do we have "options" to fall back on. I have tried to ask her not to text or call me at work venting, because on top of my own stress at work, it's simply too much for me to deal with and I tend to freak out, which causes arguments and leads to "I won't tell you anything anymore" and the guilt trip.
I am sure she thinks we'll just move back in with her mother if the s--t hits the fan, but I would rather sleep on a park bench than entertain that notion.
Am I wrong for being thoroughly sick of this? Ladies in particular, I want you to answer that. I know women like to vent and we're supposed to listen, but this is too much, especially as I cannot DO anything to help her in the sense of saying "ok honey, just quit and I'll take care of you until you find another job" (jobs are also hard to come by). I have given her my advice; I told her to document everything and take the issue up with HR).
What should I do? I guess she doesn't understand that the stress of it is affecting me too, since. I have my own problems at work to deal with.
It's a b**** out there right now, employers are getting away with s*** right now because of the economy that they never would before. Times will change my friend and you will get your wife back. Hang in there buddy! From the guy who can't stand his boss! I want to strangle his a** at times but let it roll! He isn't nearly as mouthy the busier we get, imagine that!
Explain to her that financially, she cannot just "quit" her job. Tell her that if she is that unhappy at this job, then she needs to be looking for another one, on her spare time. Hopefully, she will be able to find one that makes her half-way happy.
I vent to my husband about my job too...thats what we do, but I don`t make him miserable with it.. I don`t think! Every job has its problems, along with everything else in life, but we try to vent, and move on, ya` know?
If she is THAT unhappy with her job, then it sounds like its time for her to move on, and find something else. I realize that jobs are hard to come by nowdays, but she can at least try, rather than making her life, and yours absolutely unbearable, and impossible to live with..Yikes!
It's a b**** out there right now, employers are getting away with s*** right now because of the economy that they never would before. Times will change my friend and you will get your wife back. Hang in there buddy! From the guy who can't stand his boss! I want to strangle his a** at times but let it roll! He isn't nearly as mouthy the busier we get, imagine that!
Unfortunately, she's not looking like she's going to hang in there. As I keep trying to stress to her, our problems will be 1,000,000 tlmes worse if she just quits without finding another job first. Unemployment is at almost 13% where we live.
Explain to her that financially, she cannot just "quit" her job. Tell her that if she is that unhappy at this job, then she needs to be looking for another one, on her spare time. Hopefully, she will be able to find one that makes her half-way happy.
I vent to my husband about my job too...thats what we do, but I don`t make him miserable with it.. I don`t think! Every job has its problems, along with everything else in life, but we try to vent, and move on, ya` know?
If she is THAT unhappy with her job, then it sounds like its time for her to move on, and find something else. I realize that jobs are hard to come by nowdays, but she can at least try, rather than making her life, and yours absolutely unbearable, and impossible to live with..Yikes!
Done all of that. One minute she says she's
not irresponsible and won't just quit, then she threatens to quit unless I come over there NOW (then she tells me I'm crazy for worrying too much). I cannot take this rollercoaster anymore. If I could support her, I would. It's like every waking hour is spent with her either venting or being depressed and angry, taking it out on me for the slightest thing. I hate my job too, but I gotta do what I've gotta do and I don't bother anyone with every single complaint about my job.
Done all of that. One minute she says she's
not irresponsible and won't just quit, then she threatens to quit unless I come over there NOW (then she tells me I'm crazy for worrying too much). I cannot take this rollercoaster anymore. If I could support her, I would. It's like every waking hour is spent with her either venting or being depressed and angry, taking it out on me for the slightest thing. I hate my job too, but I gotta do what I've gotta do and I don't bother anyone with every single complaint about my job.
Yeah....URGH!
Sit her down, and tell her exactly how you feel, and don`t hold back! Do itttttt! Noone would want to be put in that situation. Yuck!
I wanted to quit a lot of times when I was at work--especially when I was having issues with managers that have since left our store...or at least our shift. I knew I couldn't, but I sure vented about it a lot. She knew that I was only venting to vent...and she might say something like, "Six more hours..."
Because when I'm not at work, I don't think of work. When I am at work, I don't think about home. I compartmentalize my issues very well.
I wanted to quit a lot of times when I was at work--especially when I was having issues with managers that have since left our store...or at least our shift. I knew I couldn't, but I sure vented about it a lot. She knew that I was only venting to vent...and she might say something like, "Six more hours..."
Because when I'm not at work, I don't think of work. When I am at work, I don't think about home. I compartmentalize my issues very well.
TK, well said dude. I hate most of the people I work with, including my bosses, but I'm there to WORK and the alternative (not having a job) is far worse.
I'm close to throwing in the proverbial towel in my marriage 'cause I just can't take this anymore. Her safety net is moving back with her mom on my salary alone and honestly, I would rather blow my brains out than live with her bipolar mother again.
They typically censor the truth on CD as it applies to femarica. You can pretty much bet I hit the nail on the head.. Ruuuuunn
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I want to strangle his a** at times but let it roll! He isn't nearly as mouthy the busier we get, imagine that!
I don`t think! 
Every job has its problems, along with everything else in life, but we try to vent, and move on, ya` know? 
Noone would want to be put in that situation. Yuck! 
