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I'm honestly surprised. It ain't necessarily hard, but not easy either. No, you don't need muscle like construction. But you do run yourself ragged tryin' to get all the orders right, & catch up with all the tables without gettin' yelled @ or something. I tip as highly as I can.
I think waitstaff are a better barometer than family are friends, because I'm usually not aware of all the complexities contained in the family relationships, so that can be misleading sometimes. You never know what he is or is not getting from the relatives, and that controls his treatment of them.
With waitstaff ("friendly strangers") it is easier to evaluate whether he is a respectful and appreicative person.
It is not hard work. Perhaps for a person that has never actually done hard work, like landscaping or construction, it might seem difficult.
I've done landscaping. I also roofed houses for one long, hard summer. But waiting tables isn't a cakewalk, either. One would have to really be clueless to think otherwise.
I had a $24 bill last night and left $4 tip. It all depends on where I am eating and the service I get!
And if she is cute... I sometimes tip the girls at the coffee shop. There is one there that I flirt with... Well we both flirt... But that is a whole different subject.
Let me preface this by saying, I'm a waitress. I've worked for a popular national chain specializing in chicken wings for the past three years.
I get to see the good and bad in people, naturally, working in the hospitality industry. Therefore, when I go out to dinner with a guy, I really judge him by the way he treats our server. If he is condescending, rude, doesn't say "please" or "thank you" the hairs will stand up on the back of my neck.
Forget about tipping...if he does not tip at least 18% for good service then I don't want to go anywhere with him. I actually got into a major argument with my ex (not the one I live with), because I caught him tipping 10% or worse on 2 or 3 occasions. His answer: "I'm not cheap! I spent thousands of dollars on you the first two months I met you!" I had to explain to him that true courtesy is not going out out of your way from people you expect things from, but being charitable even when you'll get nothing out of it/will never see the person again. We broke up shortly afterwards.
I think there was also a NY Times article about not doing business deals with people you see treat waitstaff poorly, I'll have to dig it up.
They key is how he treats others besides yourself. Just because he doesn't tip 18% shouldn't be a big deal. If he treated your friends, family, strangers, etc. like crap, then i can understand why you would do away with him.
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