what is Commitment (how to, marriage, love, husband)
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I am divorced. Been divorced almost 14 years, but periodically my ex husband calls me wanting to come home, wanting his family back the whole 9. I never let him cause no! That's been over a long time. Did I say I been divorced almost 14 yrs. Let it go. We had a terrible marriage & he had a baby. After I left he moved in with his baby's mama & they still live together.
So anyway I seldom really hear what he's saying because I'm like oh, not this conversation again. But this time. I heard him. He said, THE PROBLEM IS, YOU DON'T KNOW HOW TO BE COMMITTED. i laughed and said, commitment wouldn't have had the baby. Then he said commitment would have stayed through the baby. I said maybe so, but that was a long time ago. I have neither love or commitment for you now.
It was HE who did not have the commitment, honey. Not you.
Exactly! What he's getting at is this elusive "unconditional" love. Yes, I know of couples who have made it through such a betrayal, but I for one don't want to be a part of such a couple.
I am divorced. Been divorced almost 14 years, but periodically my ex husband calls me wanting to come home, wanting his family back the whole 9. I never let him cause no! That's been over a long time. Did I say I been divorced almost 14 yrs. Let it go. We had a terrible marriage & he had a baby. After I left he moved in with his baby's mama & they still live together.
So anyway I seldom really hear what he's saying because I'm like oh, not this conversation again. But this time. I heard him. He said, THE PROBLEM IS, YOU DON'T KNOW HOW TO BE COMMITTED. i laughed and said, commitment wouldn't have had the baby. Then he said commitment would have stayed through the baby. I said maybe so, but that was a long time ago. I have neither love or commitment for you now.
So, what is commitment?
If he truly believes you should still be in a relationship with him after what he did, then maybe he SHOULD be committed to a mental institution. You did the right thing. Don't let him try to talk you into anything or make you feel bad. He is the who should feel bad.
He sounds like an idiot and I would change my number and tell him you'll get a restraining order if he continues to harass you.
If only I could. Child custody visitation makes it impossible. he has to be able to reach me / us until the kids are grown. They are almost there, As soon as the last one graduates I'm calling AT&T.
The next time he complains that you don't know what commitment is, tell him he needs to look at his new family, and then look in the mirror. Then hang up. I'm sure the mother of his child would not appreciate his complaints.
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