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Old 06-25-2010, 09:45 PM
 
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Do you ever notice how some people who claim to be "so real" are really the most fake? Like this is something I'm noticing for the first time. And it's pissing me off I so blind to this! You know how there's some people who pride themselves on the fact that they "keep it real" or they "tell it like it is" and they have the type of personality that is supposedly "down to earth". And the people around them always gives them props for being a real chick, a real dude. But tell me why these popular people are NEVER questioned for their antics? You know the behind-the-scenes sloppiness that goes on in their lives?

Tell me how can a gold-digger be real? She has all the personality traits of a "real" chick. But in her behind-the-scenes sloppiness, she stays hunting for rich men, sex them, make them buy her everything she wants, dumps them, and then she moves on to the next guy. Is she still real? Does she still have that status?

Or the "real" dude. The serious macho-type home bro, who always tells you exactly what he feels or thinks and all the girls love him because of his "realness" and "rudeness". But in his behind-the-scenes slopiness, he stays on steroid and drugs, has a drug dealing business, gets boozed up drunk at nightclubs, and has unprotected sex with various women. Wakes up in the morning and has no clue if he has contacted an STD. Is he still real? Does he still have that status within his male circle? Even though he never brings it up?

It trips me the freak out how these supposed "real" people are within our male and female circle of friends and we don't even know it! Because of their "so real" personality, we cover up things we know about them so that we can stay friends and stay cool with them for whatever reason. But when it comes to you, they still get to judge and condemn what you do or what your friends do. As long as the spotlight is not on them and their lives, everything is peaches and cream. But when it's you? All hell breaks loose. I for one, have had enough of these creatures infiltrating my life. It's time for a complete cleansing from these viruses. I need them out of my bloodstream and I suggest for your sake and sanity, you do the same! Hear hear!
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Old 06-25-2010, 09:49 PM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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/lol

When you get older I suspect this will be less of a problem.

It's kinda like watching reality shows...

Number one rule....

The more a women proclaims she is classy.. the less so... /rofl
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Old 06-25-2010, 09:57 PM
 
Location: Deep in the heart of Texas
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I don't have friends like that. Hence I don't have many friends.
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Old 06-25-2010, 09:58 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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The correct term for that kind of person is hypocrite. With that said, if one has to tell others they are 'real' chances are very good that they are not - and they know it.
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Old 06-25-2010, 09:59 PM
 
Location: Hawaii
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Yeah, one of my sister's friends is like this. Of course, she's not the first fake person I've ever met, but she's definetly one of the ones who thinks she so "real" and "honest". Basically she's just b*tchy and rude to people for no reason other than a judgement about them popped into her head. And lying-- I guess by "real" she just means a rude b*tch who can still lie, though. Ugh.

"Real" is just a filler word or a word that means "I'm really cool."
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Old 06-26-2010, 12:49 AM
 
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Personally, I wouldn't trust anybody who is that fake. I wouldn't want to have them as friends.
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Old 06-26-2010, 12:59 AM
 
Location: Southwest France
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Substitute the word "real" for "religious". If someone has to tell you how holy they are, grab your wallet.
Same with "realness'. Its either apparent with out notification or its not. Real, that is!
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Old 06-26-2010, 02:22 AM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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Do you ever notice how some people who claim to be "so real" are really the most fake? Like this is something I'm noticing for the first time.

It trips me the freak out how these supposed "real" people are within our male and female circle of friends and we don't even know it! Because of their "so real" personality, we cover up things we know about them so that we can stay friends and stay cool with them for whatever reason. !
Welcome to the world of social masks.
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Old 06-26-2010, 04:48 AM
 
Location: CasaMo
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Substitute the word "real" for "religious". If someone has to tell you how holy they are, grab your wallet.
Same with "realness'. Its either apparent with out notification or its not. Real, that is!
Very true. And the same goes for people that talk about how "open minded" and "tolerant" they are. Put forth an opposing viewpoint and see how they take it...

Watch out for folks that are self congratulatory.
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Old 06-26-2010, 06:03 AM
 
Location: Northside Of Jacksonville
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The correct term for that kind of person is hypocrite. With that said, if one has to tell others they are 'real' chances are very good that they are not - and they know it.
Amen brother. Your actions/conduct will show how "real" you are as opposed to telling someone you're so real.

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Do you ever notice how some people who claim to be "so real" are really the most fake? Like this is something I'm noticing for the first time. And it's pissing me off I so blind to this! You know how there's some people who pride themselves on the fact that they "keep it real" or they "tell it like it is" and they have the type of personality that is supposedly "down to earth". And the people around them always gives them props for being a real chick, a real dude. But tell me why these popular people are NEVER questioned for their antics? You know the behind-the-scenes sloppiness that goes on in their lives?

Tell me how can a gold-digger be real? She has all the personality traits of a "real" chick. But in her behind-the-scenes sloppiness, she stays hunting for rich men, sex them, make them buy her everything she wants, dumps them, and then she moves on to the next guy. Is she still real? Does she still have that status?

Or the "real" dude. The serious macho-type home bro, who always tells you exactly what he feels or thinks and all the girls love him because of his "realness" and "rudeness". But in his behind-the-scenes slopiness, he stays on steroid and drugs, has a drug dealing business, gets boozed up drunk at nightclubs, and has unprotected sex with various women. Wakes up in the morning and has no clue if he has contacted an STD. Is he still real? Does he still have that status within his male circle? Even though he never brings it up?

It trips me the freak out how these supposed "real" people are within our male and female circle of friends and we don't even know it! Because of their "so real" personality, we cover up things we know about them so that we can stay friends and stay cool with them for whatever reason. But when it comes to you, they still get to judge and condemn what you do or what your friends do. As long as the spotlight is not on them and their lives, everything is peaches and cream. But when it's you? All hell breaks loose. I for one, have had enough of these creatures infiltrating my life. It's time for a complete cleansing from these viruses. I need them out of my bloodstream and I suggest for your sake and sanity, you do the same! Hear hear!
If you're real, you don't have to brodcast it. It shows in your conduct. People learn more about you through your actions than words. I don't bother telling people how real I am, I let them watch how I get down regularly. This way I won't look crazy by acting one way and proclaiming to be another.
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