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Old 06-28-2010, 02:59 PM
 
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Ok I don't know what to make out of this.

I used to hanged out with my female friend, her b/f, her two younger siblings and another friend of hers.

One day they broke up and she was crying all day telling me how it was so expected, blah, blah. During that time she would snooped around all his email messages and myspace. Not only that but also used to followed him in her car sometimes. Her ex off course didn't know about that particular behavior. If he wasn't at the place as said then she would get mad and called him.

Needlessly to say my friend is a crazy, stalker of a drama queen who also had a history of once trying to commit suicide many years earlier (spend time in an institution before I met her in high school).

Anyways fast forward: He got back with her and now they have a child under 1 years old.. yikes

He seemed like a calm, laid-back dude (but unattractive in appearance).

So why would a stable, decent guy get back with a woman like that? Even worst, have a child with her?
Or do some people just have poor choices when it comes to dating and relationships and simple can't see ahead?
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Old 06-28-2010, 03:04 PM
 
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you did mention that he's unattractive. maybe he couldn't find anyone better? people who don't have their pick of the litter in the dating world often have no choice but to settle, or face living alone.
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Old 06-28-2010, 03:06 PM
 
Location: syracuse ny
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More to the point, ,,,,,WHY ARE YOU FRIENDS WITH HER??
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Old 06-28-2010, 03:07 PM
 
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you did mention that he's unattractive. maybe he couldn't find anyone better? people who don't have their pick of the litter in the dating world often have no choice but to settle, or face living alone.
Yes he's not cute but still who would stay with a controlling, stalker with issues and still have a child with them?
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Old 06-28-2010, 03:08 PM
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no ones perfect, maybe they worked out their issues

my ex was kinda crazy like that when i first started dating her because of a lot of past bad relationships. i called her out on it and turns out all she needed was someone to call her out on her crazy **** then it stopped
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Old 06-28-2010, 03:10 PM
 
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More to the point, ,,,,,WHY ARE YOU FRIENDS WITH HER??
Being friends with someone is different than what that poor man has to now go through with paying child support for 18+ years. I think she did that on purpose.
I can be friends with anyone and choose when not to talk to them or simply ignore them.
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Old 06-28-2010, 03:14 PM
 
Location: syracuse ny
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I found my life got much calmer, much less dramatic by befriending people I actually liked, and not settling for what I could...even friends. And then I don't have to worry about their hook ups....
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Old 06-29-2010, 08:39 AM
 
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Here's an interesting though.....heterosexual people can find friends that they really love.....even guys....and what their friends 'look' like has no bearing at all on the friendship.

So why is it that guys and girls who view themselves as not attractive, can't seem to find ONE person of the opposite sex that they could possibly live the rest of their lives with? Why settle, why not just try seeing people for who they really are under the pretty wrapping?
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Old 06-29-2010, 08:43 AM
 
Location: South FL
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Ok I don't know what to make out of this.

I used to hanged out with my female friend, her b/f, her two younger siblings and another friend of hers.

One day they broke up and she was crying all day telling me how it was so expected, blah, blah. During that time she would snooped around all his email messages and myspace. Not only that but also used to followed him in her car sometimes. Her ex off course didn't know about that particular behavior. If he wasn't at the place as said then she would get mad and called him.

Needlessly to say my friend is a crazy, stalker of a drama queen who also had a history of once trying to commit suicide many years earlier (spend time in an institution before I met her in high school).

Anyways fast forward: He got back with her and now they have a child under 1 years old.. yikes

He seemed like a calm, laid-back dude (but unattractive in appearance).

So why would a stable, decent guy get back with a woman like that? Even worst, have a child with her?
Or do some people just have poor choices when it comes to dating and relationships and simple can't see ahead?
Maybe he loves her? Maybe he is happy with her? Maybe he sees something in her that you don't?

Why not be happy for her and the fact that she has a family now and a child?
Some friend YOU ARE.
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Old 06-29-2010, 08:45 AM
 
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Why would you get online and talk crap about a "friend" like that? I don't get stuff like this.
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