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Old 07-07-2010, 03:15 PM
 
Location: The Chatterdome in La La Land, CaliFUNia
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Well, then let's talk about pornography in itself then. Let's say were having sex with a partner and being filmed unknown to you. Next thing you know, it being flashed all over cell phones, internet, etc. Now, by basic definition "pornography" is the depiction of erotic behavior (as in pictures or writing) intended to cause sexual excitement.

Now you and this person broke up. You have started seeing another person and you're really into them and would like to have a relationship....but this video comes into play and he is aware of it and tells you no thanks. What then?

Prostitues is a whole other deal.....
First of all, I would never have sex with someone I do not know that well. The type of men that I look for would never video tape us having sex in the first place as that goes against everything I believe in. But for the sake of argument, I don't think it is fair for a woman should be judged for having herself aired against her consent. I do question her judgment in not being careful who she sleeps with and for allowing herself to become vulnerable though. Unfortunately, folks will judge and that's the sad thing for that individual as the footage was filmed without her consent. This isn't the majority of porno cases though where most pornography is filmed with the consent of the people engaged in the activity.
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Old 07-07-2010, 03:22 PM
 
Location: My Private Island
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First of all, I would never have sex with someone I do not know that well. The type of men that I look for would never video tape us having sex in the first place as that goes against everything I believe in. But for the sake of argument, I don't think it is fair for a woman should be judged for having herself aired against her consent. I do question her judgment in not being careful who she sleeps with and for allowing herself to become vulnerable though. Unfortunately, folks will judge and that's the sad thing for that individual as the footage was filmed without her consent. This isn't the majority of porno cases though where most pornography is filmed with the consent of the people engaged in the activity.

And to think I got called a liberal for saying the EXACT SAME THING!!! I can no longer debate with idots. See ya!
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Old 07-07-2010, 03:28 PM
 
Location: NH
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wow , a twisted turn...now we are talking about whether you'd date a woman who has been filmed against her will and you saw it on the internet, and randomly met her in real life and remember the film you saw ....

amazing spin
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Old 07-07-2010, 03:28 PM
 
Location: in my imagination
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This question of seeing a woman with a adult biz past being undesirable because a guy would worry about what others think reminds of a scene I witnessed a few years ago at a party, a New years eve party I think.

A bunch of us were at this guys house, maybe 50 people. This one couple there, she had a reputation as a local girl. She was married. So during the party her husband starts beating on the bedroom door pleading for his wife to come out. It went on for 15 minutes. She finally opened the door and her and a guy walk out. She gave her husband a "so what what are you gonna do?" reply. The husband upset still bowed to her, after that. Plain as day she boffed some guy at the party and didn't give a rat's ass what her husaband thought. She may not have films out, but what if your girl did but was retired from it and treated you like a king unlike that woman?


Another party I went to once held by some rich guy, probably 200 to 300 people there. He had various entertainment hired, music, magicians, crazy stuff. However one entertainment hired was a man and woman hired who had sex on the living room floor and 80% of the women and men at the party were standing on their toes to get a view. I did not, but I heard what was going on, but it shows that a lot of people have voyeur tendancies, yet turn around a make judgments otherwise.
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Old 07-07-2010, 03:29 PM
 
Location: NH
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And to think I got called a liberal for saying the EXACT SAME THING!!! I can no longer debate with idots. See ya!
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Old 07-07-2010, 03:32 PM
 
Location: The Chatterdome in La La Land, CaliFUNia
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wow , a twisted turn...now we are talking about whether you'd date a woman who has been filmed against her will and you saw it on the internet, and randomly met her in real life and remember the film you saw ....

amazing spin
I know ...
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Old 07-07-2010, 03:33 PM
 
Location: The Chatterdome in La La Land, CaliFUNia
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And to think I got called a liberal for saying the EXACT SAME THING!!! I can no longer debate with idots. See ya!
Now who's judgmental and insensitive?
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Old 07-07-2010, 04:55 PM
 
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Don't allow these insensitive folks get you down. Stick to your guns and do what you feel right in your heart. A person's true value is what's on the inside so develop that.
Thank you very much. I guess some people take small town humour as me being a "vanity smurf".... I don't get it.

Nothing worse than being made out to be something you aren't by some peoples negativity glasses.

As for the porn, on the WOMANS side of this..... not in a million years would I even date or talk to the guy to be quite honest.
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Old 07-07-2010, 05:04 PM
 
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There's a big difference between not judging someone's past and actually having a relationship with that person. People who have done pornography or prostitution can always change and get their lives back on track. I commend them for that and would never want to begrudge them a normal life with someone who is willing to have a relationship with them. I just cannot be that person who would be willing have the relationship with that person. Let's be honest here, there are very few men and women who are willing to have a serious relationship with someone who has had as many sexual partners as someone who has done pornography, especially when many folks view sex as something sacred. That is just the way it is.

SOOOOO true! I wouldn't judge them, I just wouldn't want to be with them, not even because THEY are in some way not what I wanted but because of ME! I could not get all of those ex partners out of my head! So it would be technically MY problem, nothing to do with their personality etc..... my OWN personal hang up.
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