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Well the situation is so (and fleshed out in greater detail):
- I met a woman several months ago, she and I talked a lot since then.
- She seems nice, but she has a son and as I said before now, I don't connect with kids much. If we ever got serious, then I would have to be in the kid's life somewhat, and I couldn't handle that.
- I like her though, and find her attractive, and whilst I couldn't be in a romantic relationship with her, I would not mind a no strings thing with her.
Really? You wouldn't "mind"? So just ask her if she wants a f***buddy...cuz that's all you're offering.
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Originally Posted by samston
I feel a bit bad since I don't just want to be out to get in her pants, but I would like to be with her some way, since she seems like a nice person.
Does this make me a dog? I am thinking I should just be honest and say what I want, before anything goes any further. It's fair on all parties involved.
My earlier statement stands. The fact that she is a mother, is completely unrelated to what you are asking. If you are now saying that you don't want to have sex with her, and just be friends...then fine. Be friends. I suspect you will get much further with her, emotionally, than you ever anticipated.
Really? You wouldn't "mind"? So just ask her if she wants a f***buddy...cuz that's all you're offering.
My earlier statement stands. The fact that she is a mother, is completely unrelated to what you are asking. If you are now saying that you don't want to have sex with her, and just be friends...then fine. Be friends. I suspect you will get much further with her, emotionally, than you ever anticipated.
what is wrong in that?
Why is it somehow sacrilege to say one doesn't like children? Is this the basis of the ire here? What is wrong in meeting somebody, getting to know them, realising that a serious relationship wouldn't work but settling for something less? I consider that honourable and not dog-like. Why enter a relationship that is unfair on both parties?
Why is it somehow sacrilege to say one doesn't like children? Is this the basis of the ire here? What is wrong in meeting somebody, getting to know them, realising that a serious relationship wouldn't work but settling for something less? I consider that honourable and not dog-like. Why enter a relationship that is unfair on both parties?
I said nothing about it being "somehow sacrilege to say one doesn't like children". What I find perfectly ridiculous is that you find this chick that you are attracted to, and you like her, and then find out she has kids...so you'd like to offer her a no-strings sexual relationship since you don't want to be bothered with the kid thing.
"Settling for something less" is what I suggested. Be her friend. Seriously. Unless she is desperate, I doubt she would want anything more than friendship with someone that finds her children to be dealbreakers, relationship-wise. How is it that you do not see this?
I said nothing about it being "somehow sacrilege to say one doesn't like children". What I find perfectly ridiculous is that you find this chick that you are attracted to, and you like her, and then find out she has kids...so you'd like to offer her a no-strings sexual relationship since you don't want to be bothered with the kid thing.
"Settling for something less" is what I suggested. Be her friend. Seriously. Unless she is desperate, I doubt she would want anything more than friendship with someone that finds her children to be dealbreakers, relationship-wise. How is it that you do not see this?
to me, children are a dealbreaker. I can't help what I like and dislike.
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So just ask her if she wants a f***buddy...cuz that's all you're offering. 
I am thinking I should just be honest and say what I want, before anything goes any further. It's fair on all parties involved.
