A situation at work

[samston]

Originally Posted by miu

It's usually a terrible idea to date someone from work. It's not worth it, especially if the romance goes sour.

it's not really that black and white.

[miu]

Originally Posted by samston

it's not really that black and white.

Sure it is. I would also never ever start dating someone that was a roommate, or living in the same apartment building or block.

If your work career is important to you, then you definitely don't want to date a co-worker. First there is the office gossip mill to avoid. Then for both parties, all their work decisions come under close scrutiny to make sure that they are showing favoritism to each other. And most likely, upper management isn't going to promote anyone that is involved in an interoffice romance. If they get married, then the company will be more accepting, but even then that couple will never be treated like normal employees.

Most companies have policies regarding sexual harassment... which is why many companies also frown on workplace romances. Again, this is important if your job is a career. If you work for Walmart, or some other non-career job, then do what you want to.

And I can't think of any work situation more awful than breaking up with a co-worker. Most romantic breakups are emotional and with both sides unhappy and/or angry. After a breakup, most people never want to see their exes again, but with an office romance, you'd have to see them daily plus endure the gossip mongers.

So don't sh*t where you sleep.

[samston]

Originally Posted by miu

Sure it is. I would also never ever start dating someone that was a roommate, or living in the same apartment building or block.

If your work career is important to you, then you definitely don't want to date a co-worker. First there is the office gossip mill to avoid. Then for both parties, all their work decisions come under close scrutiny to make sure that they are showing favoritism to each other. And most likely, upper management isn't going to promote anyone that is involved in an interoffice romance. If they get married, then the company will be more accepting, but even then that couple will never be treated like normal employees.

Most companies have policies regarding sexual harassment... which is why many companies also frown on workplace romances. Again, this is important if your job is a career. If you work for Walmart, or some other non-career job, then do what you want to.

And I can't think of any work situation more awful than breaking up with a co-worker. Most romantic breakups are emotional and with both sides unhappy and/or angry. After a breakup, most people never want to see their exes again, but with an office romance, you'd have to see them daily plus endure the gossip mongers.

So don't sh*t where you sleep.

But what if it's in another department, or another office across town or in another city? It would be the same organisation, but the effect would be lesser.

This is why it's never a black and white issue, and IMO is worst when it's in the same department or team.