Women: Can you fullfill all your husbands conversational needs? (movies, girlfriends, how to)
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I do not think it is healthy to expect your spouse to be your only source for high quality conversation. Sure the men can talk about baseball or work out at the gym together but typical men talk is boring. Us women have it easier, we can have our husband as our best friend but have close women friends we can share intimate conversation. Men are not getting much good conversation from their buddies (other men). So this puts incredible pressure on their spouse to be their only real friend. I think it is to much to expect from one person.
That's not true. We are all not just a bunch of dumb meat heads.
Men talk about other more sensitive stuff with men too. I don't know who brainwashed you into thinking its all about boobs, sports and burping. Whats between your legs should not mean you can't have a good conversation but it sure can lead to compatibility. I sorta think its funny that plumbing parts are called female and male based on structure...and I think about it with this situation...Its eventually all going to come together as that is what its built for.
I think you're assuming that all men are not having their emotional needs met. Maybe the reason men don't tend to have these deep meaningful conversations with each other is because they don't feel the need for that. I've never met a man who seems to have the same need for intimate conversation as a woman. For the instance when they do have this need,that's what their wife/mother/sister/etc. are for. Not to say that men shouldn't have close female friends, but just that I don't see it as an absolute necessity to their happiness.
My hubby and I have a good relationship and can talk about lots of things, but the kinds of things we don't talk about are things that I talk about with other women (such as shopping, TV shows, skincare, etc.) and he talks about with other men (UFC fights, weight lifting, heavy metal bands, etc.). I'm not really sure that having close friends of the opposite sex would be helpful for those conversations. For us, we both have friends of opposite sex, but not "close" friends, except that one of my best friends is a gay male.
That is the problem, men are socialized to think they have to act all tough and macho and spend all their time talking about boxing, football and weight lifting. While those topics maybe interesting to some men lots of guys are sensitive and like to talk about more intimate emotional subjects and want a different perspective than their wives.
Still trying to rationalize writing 12 times a day to the married guy who isn't your husband, eh?
His wife can't meet all of his conversational needs, so there you are, ready to step in and meet them, yourself. How magnanimous of you!
And surely, you're okay with your husband going to another woman for his conversational needs. In fact, you should invite him to C-D so that some of the ladies here can take care of his conversational needs.
still trying to rationalize writing 12 times a day to the married guy who isn't your husband, eh?
His wife can't meet all of his conversational needs, so there you are, ready to step in and meet them, yourself. How magnanimous of you!
And surely, you're okay with your husband going to another woman for his conversational needs. In fact, you should invite him to c-d so that some of the ladies here can take care of his conversational needs.
THIS
The lengths some people will go to to justify their bad behavior!
That is the problem, men are socialized to think they have to act all tough and macho and spend all their time talking about boxing, football and weight lifting. While those topics maybe interesting to some men lots of guys are sensitive and like to talk about more intimate emotional subjects and want a different perspective than their wives.
Thats just a certain type of guy. Or a line a guy gives someone to woo them.
"Oh you are so interesting...We really identify and care about the same things. I am so glad we can talk like this. "
It just always makes me think of the rollins video "liar"
yes. Hey baby, bring me a beer! Hey baby, whats for super? Hey baby, wheres the plunger? JK
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