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I just read the poll thread on how important sex is, and those who voted, in both genders, said sex is important.
Well, what's your definition of sex appeal, and is it set in stone?
I've written here that I once had a romance w/ a woman, "Minny," whose face was not anywhere near what I'd historically defined as "pretty," and when I first saw her, there was no attraction. In fact I thought Minny was less good-looking than I'd expected.
However, we clicked - deeply. It was one of the most fiery romances I've ever had; in fact, none of the other women I dated since her sparked either my intellect or my emotions/passions as Minny did... and some were in fact prettier than Minny; some had sexier bodies.
But, no matter. It's been almost 2 full years and nobody has come close to Minny. Not by a mile.
Experiencing Minny was an eye-opener for me. I never imagine that a woman with her face and "nerdy" look, and average build (but above-average breasts) could have been so incredibly irresistible and sexy. This taught me that "sex appeal" isn't set in stone. And I'm happy I learned this.
(In fact, while Minny and I have both moved on, I personally believe that if the circumstances were right, that Minny and I could become an item again. But it'll most probably not happen).
What about you? Again, I ask: what's your definition of sex appeal, and is it set in stone?
I agree with JSizzle, there are certain things that human language fails to clearly express because there are so many variables and because they involve complex emotions that words can't define. It reminds me when one of the Supreme Court Justices was asked to define pornography and he said "I can't define it but I know it when I see it".
"Sex appeal" is kinda like the Tao, unable to describe it, hold it, explain it. It just "IS". It goes beyond the mere physical (but having a body like Kim Kardashian or Jessica Biel doesnt hurt) but you know it when you see/feel it.
Ive met a few women in my life who may not have been physically sexy, but they just had this certain extra "something" that made them sexy. Its indescribable. Sharon Osborne, Gwen Stefani and Carole Bayer-Sager come to mind. I met them at a Grammy party and was just overwhelmed at their sex appeal. Gwen's you can even see in her videos or on tv.
"Sex appeal" is kinda like the Tao, unable to describe it, hold it, explain it. It just "IS". It goes beyond the mere physical (but having a body like Kim Kardashian or Jessica Biel doesnt hurt) but you know it when you see/feel it.
Ive met a few women in my life who may not have been physically sexy, but they just had this certain extra "something" that made them sexy. Its indescribable. Sharon Osborne, Gwen Stefani and Carole Bayer-Sager come to mind. I met them at a Grammy party and was just overwhelmed at their sex appeal. Gwen's you can even see in her videos or on tv.
I hear ya. It's also different, I might add, from having a great body and dressing in a "cheap" manner.
I'm also a believer in that having a great/fit body help a LOT if you're a man.
Sex appeal is not about standards, looks, or even personality. It just is. It is also different for everybody. It is not explainable; it is something that just happens between two people. Another word for it is chemistry...it seems like when you are around this person or talk to them the air sizzles...you relate on a whole other plane...the world disappears and it is only the two of you.
I just read the poll thread on how important sex is, and those who voted, in both genders, said sex is important.
Well, what's your definition of sex appeal, and is it set in stone?
I've written here that I once had a romance w/ a woman, "Minny," whose face was not anywhere near what I'd historically defined as "pretty," and when I first saw her, there was no attraction. In fact I thought Minny was less good-looking than I'd expected.
However, we clicked - deeply. It was one of the most fiery romances I've ever had; in fact, none of the other women I dated since her sparked either my intellect or my emotions/passions as Minny did... and some were in fact prettier than Minny; some had sexier bodies.
But, no matter. It's been almost 2 full years and nobody has come close to Minny. Not by a mile.
Experiencing Minny was an eye-opener for me. I never imagine that a woman with her face and "nerdy" look, and average build (but above-average breasts) could have been so incredibly irresistible and sexy. This taught me that "sex appeal" isn't set in stone. And I'm happy I learned this.
(In fact, while Minny and I have both moved on, I personally believe that if the circumstances were right, that Minny and I could become an item again. But it'll most probably not happen).
What about you? Again, I ask: what's your definition of sex appeal, and is it set in stone?
I'm a sucker for ladies who are interested in me and ask me questions. Often followed by bubbly giggles, smiles and eye action! Another one is if they can make me laugh! I know, I am a tool!LOL........
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