What's the Best Way To Handle This? (dating, man, family)
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I've recently began attending a new church. Over the past few months a gentleman has shone me interest, but no date or encounters have occured outside of church....yet!
He made the first approach by introducing himself and welcoming me, after observing my attendance for a few weeks.
He is always very kind, and makes a point of speaking to me. We've had the occasional handshake and greeting in passing and he even has gotten my attention from clear across the congregation by waving, to which I smile and waved back.
He always gives a nice compliment and a smile.
I find him handsome, and am starting to like him too.
After weekly bible study on this coming Wednesday....I will not be in attendance at church for the next six weeks, as I have a health issue that has to be addressed surgically.
In my absence, I guess I don't want his "attentions" to stray.
I feel the need to let him know I won't be in attendance for six weeks, but I really don't want to tell him of my health issue. It is one that will be repaired and I will be "good as new" upon completion of the surgery.
I'm wondering if this would be appropriate? What do you think of my advising him that I'll miss seeing him for a few weeks, as I have a "family emergency" that requires my absence away from church that his prayers would be appreciated?
I hope this isn't too corny. I've been out of the dating scene for years, and I just feel compelled to say something to this man before my departure. I know I'll be gone, but don't want to be "forgotten", or be seen as "flaky" for having been absent from service.
Last edited by Atlanta Georgia Peach; 07-11-2010 at 11:29 PM..
I wonder what your church would think of a lie? Hum. (Sorry, I couldn't resist!)
I think the best thing to do is to say you are having minor surgery (assure him it's nothing serious) and will be out of circulation for 6 weeks. I think you will find that people are respectful and phrased this way, tend to understand you don't want to talk about it. If he asks questions, simply repeat that it's minor, nothing to worry about but you will miss seeing him at church.
If you will be in a position to take phone calls or emails - give him your contact info.
Best wishes, my friend.
I wonder what your church would think of a lie? Hum. (Sorry, I couldn't resist!)
I think the best thing to do is to say you are having minor surgery (assure him it's nothing serious) and will be out of circulation for 6 weeks. I think you will find that people are respectful and phrased this way, tend to understand you don't want to talk about it. If he asks questions, simply repeat that it's minor, nothing to worry about but you will miss seeing him at church.
If you will be in a position to take phone calls or emails - give him your contact info.
Best wishes, my friend.
Wow...
What "lie"? Never did I state it was "minor" surgery. My "vascular surgeon" and "family members" who are flying in from all over the States, certainly feel my health concern is a "family emergency".
In my absence, I guess I don't want his "attentions" to stray.
I feel the need to let him know I won't be in attendance for a few weeks, but I really don't want to tell him of my health issue. It is one that will be repaired and I will be "good as new" upon completion of the surgery.
I'm wondering if this would be appropriate? What do you think of my advising him that I'll miss seeing him for a few weeks, as I have a "family emergency" that requires my absence away from church that his prayers would be appreciated?
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I think this is nice, and perfectly acceptable. A very classy way to give just enough explanation.
I'm not sure I'd say anything. 6 weeks isn't that long and I think the mystery of your absence might pique his interest. Make sure to leave your contact info with a church friend, so if he asks about you, they can suggest he drop a card or flowers. But TMI is a real killer!
I'm not sure I'd say anything. 6 weeks isn't that long and I think the mystery of your absence might pique his interest. Make sure to leave your contact info with a church friend, so if he asks about you, they can suggest he drop a card or flowers. But TMI is a real killer!
It has been a few months and he hasn't made any move to get to know you outside of church?
I wouldn't bother. Not to be a Debbie Downer, but if he was interested in you, he would have asked for your phone number by now.
On the plus side, if by some chance he is interested in you, maybe your absence will shake him out of his complacency and he'll do something about his interest when you get back.
It has been a few months and he hasn't made any move to get to know you outside of church?
I wouldn't bother. Not to be a Debbie Downer, but if he was interested in you, he would have asked for your phone number by now.
On the plus side, if by some chance he is interested in you, maybe your absence will shake him out of his complacency and he'll do something about his interest when you get back.
Wow, could you possibly deliver any more good news for the OP?
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What do you think of my advising him that I'll miss seeing him for a few weeks, as I have a "family emergency" that requires my absence away from church that his prayers would be appreciated?
I've been out of the dating scene for years, and I just feel compelled to say something to this man before my departure. I know I'll be gone, but don't want to be "forgotten", or be seen as "flaky" for having been absent from service.
