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You obviously don't have kids. Cause if you did, you'd know that mothers will sacrifice a great deal for their kids, even at the expense of their own (the mother's) happiness. That's why the second scenario you described, where the woman walked away because the man was too nice or boring, is incredibly unlikely. As for the first scenario, where the woman trusted the wrong person, here's my question to you. Is someone who was a poor judge of character in the past STILL a poor judge of character? People make all kinds of mistakes in their youth. But people also tend to learn from their mistakes. Which means the single mom you're quick to condemn as a poor judge of character probably isn't a poor judge anymore. If anything, being a mom has probably caused her to be far more cautious and less likely to trust the wrong people, meaning her judgement has improved.
I'm not gay but would take a male version of Jet Jockey over a single dad anytime. I'm a straight woman but can never understand a man's logic in choosing a single mom over a childless woman. To be honest I suspect a lot of men do this when she is a never married mom because they assume she is easy.
Because its likely not a choice, its that single moms are all that are avalible to some guys. So its single moms or your right hand. If they are less attractive single moms then they can be fiercly loyal and a great partner. There are some draw backs but what is the alternative, a kate upton who does not snore and wants to move in with you and do what ever you want in bed who does not exist as a choice.
I am glad my friends and coworkers don't look down upon me for my lot in life with dating.
I'm not gay but would take a male version of Jet Jockey over a single dad anytime. I'm a straight woman but can never understand a man's logic in choosing a single mom over a childless woman. To be honest I suspect a lot of men do this when she is a never married mom because they assume she is easy.
All else being equal, most men would probably choose the childless woman over the single mom. But things are never that simple. I could meet a terrific woman that I have lots in common with, but who just happens to have a kid. Or I could meet a childless woman I have little in common with. Should I opt for the latter since she doesn't have a kid? You talk about logic as if all men will select women the same way. But not all men see a woman already having a child as that big a deal. And as for single moms being easy, that's funny. Most single moms don't have time for sex. They can't just dump the kid off at the sitter's everytime the guy she's dating wants sex. And if a guy is looking for someone easy, there are plenty of childless women who are easy.
I went out for drinks with two female co-workers after work last Thursday before the long weekend. We somehow got on the subject of kids. One woman is a single mother in her early 30s with a two year old daughter. She flat out said she wants six more kids. Then she started describing how she loves the birth process.
Then she asked me if I wanted kids. I really didn't know what to say so I said, "Eventually ... with the right woman."
She is beautiful and very nice. I can't see myself getting involved with someone who has a kid. Maybe that's due to me being a young 20-something working professional who has his **** together. Maybe it's due to my upbringing. My parents have been married 29 years and have known each other for almost 40 years. Their parents have stayed together even longer. There are no divorces is my immediate and extended families.
I have co-workers who are on their second marriages with kids from their current wife and ex-wife. I talked to the current wife of one of my co-workers and she talked to me about this woman with the 2 year old daughter and said I should not dismiss her just because of that. So I am not allowed to have preferences?
Maybe it will change as I get older. This is just the way I feel.
I have co-workers who are on their second marriages with kids from their current wife and ex-wife. I talked to the current wife of one of my co-workers and she talked to me about this woman with the 2 year old daughter and said I should not dismiss her just because of that. So I am not allowed to have preferences?
Who says you're not allowed to have preferences? She's just telling you not to rule out this person.
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