Attracting an older woman (friends, straight, conversations, dumped)
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Can you just answer yes or no when a man ask you out? Do you absolutely need "an offer", like some dating website profile? That must put off a lot of men, it really sounds high maintenance. One could mistakenly assume you're talking about money.
The purpose of a date is to get to know the other person and see what that person has to "offer".
For most people it takes a lot of courage to ask someone out. You should consider that and have the respect to say yes or no politeley, without looking down on them and act as if you were too good for them.
And we wonder why people aren't seducing each others anymore.
Well he's asking how to attract a demographic, not a person.
If a women asked how to attract a rich guy, I'd ask her what she has to offer too.
And all of that I need to find out BEFORE he takes me out on that first romantic dinner date.
Well that is understandable. But there's a way to do this. Like chatting a bit before agreeing to a date. Most men will introduce themselves and talk it up a bit before they actually ask you out anyway.
But bruntly replying "what do you have to offer?" like the man in question is a drug dealer then rolling your eyes if he looks perplexed is certainly not the way to go. I'm not saying that's what you do but a lot of women do this and in your reply, it kinda sounded that way.
If your method has been working for you and everyone's happy, you must be doing something right.
Well, it's always inevitable that an older women will say "not me!", implying she's wild and awesome in bed, but it often turns out to be quite the contrary.
Don't take it personally though, I just speak from my own experience (don't we all?). In my early twenties I was really going after older women. But every experience turned out to be quite a let down, sexually and emotionally. In my immature head, I fantasized about the idea of an older woman using me as a ***** then kicking me out of her apartment, but most of the times, they got emotionally attached in a way and if we ever made it to the bed (didn't always happen), it was often awkward. For some reason, I had a lot of pleasant surprises in bed with younger women even though I am naturally attracted to older women. Anyway, that's my story with women of different ages.
I'll tell ya how to attract anyone, much less an older woman:
It ain't all that different than tryin' to attract a woman your age. Just be funny & nice & ask her out without pressuring her, then pay for the date before she even gets a chance to take her wallet out. Be a gentleman, then tell her your age like it ain't a big deal to you. It might not be a big deal to her either if you're completely irresistable.
I am approached quite often by younger men, far more so than men my own age. And if I look at online only, I'd say 80% of the men who contact me are 30 and younger. I can only assume this is based on my physical appearance, that my body (and face) look much younger due the heavy emphasis on fitness in my life.
I will occasionally go out with a guy that much younger for fun, and I find them enjoyable in a FWB situation. Very enjoyable. But I can't see myself to date someone that much younger with a eye towards a serious relationship. If I were dating someone who is 28, in five years or so he will most likely find himself wanting to start a family. He'd be 33 and I'd be 45... that's most likely not going to work without intervention of modern medicine, and even that isn't a guarantee. The outcome would be bad for both of us. Sure I could think we could possibly adopt but that's not a smart bet.
For me to date a man much younger with an eye towards an actual relationship, I'd need to be 95% convinced that he will not desire children in the future.
My SO was 31 when we met and that was one of his 'must haves'.
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