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Originally Posted by JSizzle225
Because they are. They are admittedly losers, and sad that average women don't want to give them, below average guys, a chance.
It's just a coping mechanism.
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Yeah, I always kind of smirk to myself when I meet a guy who starts blaming feminism, the modern world, human rights, the ACLU, minorities, the eroding fabric of American society, etc. for their romantic failings.
It's like, hm, have you noticed
how many women around you have boyfriends/fiances/husbands? Not all of them are "jerks" or "bad boys." According to the 2000 census, there are 143.4 million women in the US, and there are 138.1 million males. Not all of those people are of dating/marrying age, but the numbers are still tipped in the favor of women no matter how you look at it, and with
one hundred and forty-three point four god-damned women in America there is
absolutely a woman out there for you, you just are going about finding her in the wrong way!
I'm single right now because I have too much to focus on in my personal life to achieve my goals. I work super-long shifts, I hit the gym a lot, I am working on my art and my writing, I really do not
want to be encumbered at the moment, but I dated successfully all through my early 20's and only decided to stay single earlier this year. And you know what? I'm shy as all hell in person! I'm a nerd! I'm a geek who's built like an M1A1 tank, and wears expensive suits, but I'm not into XTREME sports or jetsetting or gambling or any of those pimp-ass, high-roller player type things that a lot of guys sell themselves short assuming that women want.
No, I have an
aquarium, and it has bumblebee gobies, an African ghost knife, flounders, and dwarf puffers in it. I have a parrot. I am
way too into my car, and cars in general. I'm a music buff. But I have dated all up and down the ladder, from 18 to 35, welfare recipients to millionaire heiresses, and man, have I had a great time.
I chalk it up to actually talking to women in the first place. I don't have a game plan or use pickup tactics or lines (which I think are for losers), no, I just
interact with them and feel the situation out, and trust my instincts. I've been turned down at least as many times as I've been successful.
If you're crying your eyes out about how all the women you meet are
too fat, or
too immoral, or
too independent, or
not smart enough, or this or that or the other, you are probably
doing it wrong. The only common line between you and all your failed romantic pursuits is
you. Even if you go exclusively for, say, half-black/half-Asian bisexual Christian girls with no tattoos but multiple ear piercings with below a 34B bustline but hips no less than 40 inches around who drive Toyotas and were born in the Capricorn cycle... for dating purposes the only thing that any of the girls fitting that description you've failed to win a chance with or have a successful relationship with, who have never met eachother and don't necessarily have anything to do with one another, have in common is
the fact that you failed to win a chance or have a successful relationship with them.
Dudes:
Quit wangsting over
your failures,
your mistakes,
your inability to attract or maintain your ideal mate, and
stop blaming the female gender - who make up the majority of the world's population and are all individuals with their own personalities - for what ultimately is
your mishandling of your goals.