Long distance relationship madness

[warmonkey23]

Ha that is definitely possible I suppose. All I know is that when Ryan (my significant other) gets angry (FOR NO REASON OF COURSE) I simply tell him "hey you are yelling at me for BLANK and it really hurts my feelings". He generally calms down and apologizes after he realizes that what he is doing hurts me. Often times people are blind to their own faults and are unable to see how ridiculous they are behaving until they are removed from the situation or someone shows them. I know there have been times where I acted like a pompous ass only to feel awful hours later when I can't remember why I was upset... But by that point many people don't bother apologizing simply because they are embarrassed. Give it a shot.. you may be surprised.

[Neemy]

Originally Posted by spyrals

Yes I think that might be the case. All the other advice like he wants out or he's got someone else don't fit our circumstances but you might be right. So how do I reassure him? I talk to him daily, maybe I should be warmer and more caring somehow.

I would say keep talking to him, email him, send him cards, email him links to videos of songs you both like, that kind of thing. Anything tangible that shows him you were thinking of him at a time when you weren't talking on the phone, skype, or whatever helps. And, yeah, I agree the guys don't seem to handle it as well as the women, so you kind of have to treat them with kid gloves, because misunderstandings from a distance are magnified immensely.

[Robhu]

Sounds like depression and depression can breed anger or hostillity and you are the one he can use to vent his frustration.
Let him know you are just as lonely and miss him as much as he misses you and that you both need to have confidence in each other and support each other until better times allow you to be together again.
If he continues the behavoir he is showing now you might want to reconsider the strength of your relationship.