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I divorced after 25 years of marriage. She left and filed for separation, I counter-filed for divorce. I takes vows seriously but I also believe they can be broken or you can be released from them by the behavior of the other.
A good marriage is hard work; any successful relationship is. If I'd worked harder at it perhaps the first marriage would have lasted but for a variety of reasons I'm glad it didn't. So are my children!
My current wife and I are in our 14th year of marriage. There are no gurantees but I think this one will last. The first one shouldn't have lasted as long as it did!
Those people who say marriage means nothing to those who get divorced. One guy I spoke to told me marriage was "like a broken iPhone - you just go out and get a new one."
What are people expected to do if they're unhappy? Live a life of misery because they don't want to dishonour their vows?
Mad? I wouldn't get mad. If it were my friends, I would be sad.
I do roll my eyes when it's obviously a case of morons getting married when they weren't ready for it...the other day, my friend (a week out from her marriage) was bemoaning the fact that her husband-to-be didn't want to discuss finances - that it made him uncomfortable, so she wasn't going to press the issue. I was like, "Are y'all morons?" And these are people in their 40s on their second marriage!
I don't know. As young as I am, when I hear people get divorce I get sad. I know, people are thinking it's none of my business and blah blah but I don't know. I guess I value relationships and the beauty of it, whether I know them or not. No, not pity. People tend to think I pity when I think it's only compassion, I think...Maybe I do get a little bit mad.. but I think saddness tend to take over. Try to completely understand would help a lot.
Mad? I wouldn't get mad. If it were my friends, I would be sad.
I do roll my eyes when it's obviously a case of morons getting married when they weren't ready for it...the other day, my friend (a week out from her marriage) was bemoaning the fact that her husband-to-be didn't want to discuss finances - that it made him uncomfortable, so she wasn't going to press the issue. I was like, "Are y'all morons?" And these are people in their 40s on their second marriage!
yes because finances are important. the last thing you want to do is marry a lazy, irresponsible, bum.
I guess it makes us non-married couples lose faith in marriage IMO. My parents have been married for 23 yrs. but almost every single one of my friends parents are divorced...I'm the minority which is very strange to me. So, even I--whose parents are still together have pretty much lost faith in marriage for the most part. My boyfriend's mother is on her 4th, or 5th marriage ( I couldn't even tell ya) which is absolutely ridiculous to me. I would think after the 2nd failed marriage, possibly 3rd--people would choose NOT to marry but just be together. I personally, never want to divorce and that is probably why I'm still dating my boyfriend of 5 yrs. I would def. not remarry after a 2nd failed marriage though, that's for certain.
It's a blanket statement with a kernal of truth. Hey, there are tons of very very good reasons to get a divorce and we read them in this thread all the time. However, there are a lot of people that frankly are unsuited for the commitment.
And we need to tell those people that is ok rather than demonizing them. Society (at least in the US) is waaay to obsessed with marriage and other ideas of commitment, like home ownership, which is clearly not the best idea for everyone.
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