Does my boyfriend still have feelings for his ex? (dating, girlfriend, girl)
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my boyfriend wrote a song for a girl he fell in love with and named it after her.
as his current girlfriend i didn't feel comfortable with him playing the song with words that express his love to her.
he said it doesn't mean that anymore and when he sings it he thinks about me. so i sing it with him. he said he wanted me to sing it on his record too.
one day he invited me out in a club where his ex girlfriend works. he said he would like to see her so we could both sing the song about her on his album.
i felt insulted and i felt he lied about how he didn't have feelings for her anymore playing that nostalgic song.
does he love me and not her, for sure? they were together 2 years ago and she cheated on her boyfriend to be with him.
when i confronted my boyfriend about this, and said i didn't want to go to the club then if it was about this. he didn't want to talk to me and just left there without me.
I wasn't being rude or jealous, i felt disrespected.
what should i do?
What should you do? Nothing. You need to move on, and let him have his little fantasies about his ex along with his song.
That was asking alot of you to even go to the club that she works at. Gezzz..whats up with that? Let alone...singing the song in front of her. Good luck!
When did he write the song? Was it when he was with her or now? If latter, then I think he still have feelings for her and you have every right to feel the way you do.
People are always going to have some sort of feelings for old lovers, as long as he treats you well & is this open about his past relationship, get over it!
People are always going to have some sort of feelings for old lovers, as long as he treats you well & is this open about his past relationship, get over it!
I agree for sure. But, he's crossing the line by going to where she works and singing a song that both he, the ex, and the OP know was written for the ex. That's begging for trouble .
Maybe you need to have a heart to heart with your bf. Let him know how you feel. It's possible that he wants to get back with her. How long have the two of you been dating? Maybe you need to give him some time to reexamine his feelings for the two of you.
Sounds like he's using you to try and prove something to her. He's either trying to show her that how much he loved her, and maybe still does, and perhaps thinks he can spark some jealousy in her by singing this song together with you where she works. Is this song in praise of her, or is it one of those bitter love songs? Either way, you're boyfriend sounds a little goofy to me.
I don't about most people, but if my S.O. wrote a love song about a former lover from two years ago using his name in the title, I'd have to wonder where her heart was.
my boyfriend wrote a song for a girl he fell in love with and named it after her.
as his current girlfriend i didn't feel comfortable with him playing the song with words that express his love to her.
he said it doesn't mean that anymore and when he sings it he thinks about me. so i sing it with him. he said he wanted me to sing it on his record too.
one day he invited me out in a club where his ex girlfriend works. he said he would like to see her so we could both sing the song about her on his album.
i felt insulted and i felt he lied about how he didn't have feelings for her anymore playing that nostalgic song.
does he love me and not her, for sure? they were together 2 years ago and she cheated on her boyfriend to be with him.
when i confronted my boyfriend about this, and said i didn't want to go to the club then if it was about this. he didn't want to talk to me and just left there without me.
I wasn't being rude or jealous, i felt disrespected.
what should i do?
You sat there and took that crap? Quit fooling yourself and move on. I don't care what he says, its a song written for someone else, and about someone else. Why is he singing it now? That's sh-- that should be left in the past. How would he like it if you were hanging out with your ex-boyfriend?
please don't call me a psycho because the song was written just before we got together. so it should be ok, i know. BUT...
we're together for 2 years. i used to hear a lot about her in the begining of our relationship and sometimes all till now obviously, and plus hearing him play that special song for her, got me a little bit fed up. it's not bitter, it's a praise.
what i find disturbing is that i tried to love the song and even sing it with him, and then this...
yes i wonder what is going on. what strikes me is he went to the club (he's a musican) pissed of probably thinking i'm jealous. and he is not contacting me, is he trying to guilt trip me?!
i don't wanna be the other girl and be insecure thanks to him.
what is he trying to do anyway?
yes i'm thinking about breaking up...
If nothing else, he is being very insensitive to your feelings. It does, however, sound like he is using you to get to his ex. Why else would he want the two of you to sing a song he wrote for her where she works? That is just wrong.
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Let alone...singing the song in front of her. 
Good luck!
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